Wedding question

[Dude]

Question on a wedding here folks.

Saturday, I'm going to the ceremony and skipping the reception.

And I wouldn't exactly say I'm all that close to the couple.

Am I still obligated to give a gift?

 

[imjustagirl]

Yes.

Most people would say if you're even invited, you're obligated to give a gift. I generally buy a gift if I'm invited.

but I would say if you show up, even if you're not partaking of the food, you should give something. Find some wooden spoons on the registry for $10 and give those.

 

[User 1019]

How big's the wedding?

If there's 500 people going, probably not.

If only 50 are attending, I would think so.

 

[OTD]

Question on a wedding here folks.

Saturday, I'm going to the ceremony and skipping the reception.

And I wouldn't exactly say I'm all that close to the couple.

Am I still obligated to give a gift?

Yes. If you're close enough to go to the wedding, you're close enough to give a gift. If you didn't feel close enough to the couple to attend, you could've just sent a card with your best wishes.

 

[zeke12]

Rule I go by:

If I get an invitation in the mail, I buy a gift.

Doesn't have to be something big, but if they took the time to track down my address and mail me an invite, I get them something.

 

[fishwrapper]

Why would you attend if they're not close enough for you to purchase a gift?

 

[Dude]

Why would you attend if they're not close enough for you to purchase a gift?

It's more that I'm too cheap to buy a gift.

 

[imjustagirl]

Dude, nearly any registry will include something small enough for you to be able to afford.

 

[zeke12]

Even a bottle of wine or something, if there's nothing cheap on the registry.

 

[Some Guy]

Rule I go by:

If I get an invitation in the mail, I buy a gift.

Doesn't have to be something big, but if they took the time to track down my address and mail me an invite, I get them something.

Could I have your address? I'd like to invite you to my, erm, bris.

 

[imjustagirl]

Don't do it. He'll send you a rusty butter knife.

 

[zeke12]

Don't do it. He'll send you a rusty butter knife.

You are the queen. I bow in your general direction.

 

[zeke12]

Oh, and Some Guy:

Mazel Tov!

 

[podunk press]

You buy a gift.

Or a $20 Target gift card.

 

[YGBFKM]

I can't remember the last time I was invited to a wedding. And yes, I know what that says about me.

 

[Some Guy]

I say, if you attend, you take a gift.

If you're not going to attend, it's your call.

 

[zeke12]

I can't remember the last time I was invited to a wedding. And yes, I know what that says about me.

We wear caps and sleeves at this level of nuptials, son.

 

[luckyducky]

Most people would say if you're even invited, you're obligated to give a gift. I generally buy a gift if I'm invited.

Yes.

Missed a friend's wedding last month to be at a, uhm, celebration thingy in another state. They invited me and I knew I would still be seeing them post-trip, so I bought a gift and had it shipped just before the wedding (the Shamwow! set. Not kidding. They registered for it. HAD to.).

Also went to a destination wedding (well, they live in Hawaii, none of the guests do) and they insisted no one buy a gift. Almost all of us did and, IMHO, the gifts were better than normal since they weren't registered anywhere. I brought them gifts I knew would be used/mean something.

But seriously, bring a gift. Especially if you're at the ceremony and not the reception.

 

[budcrew08]

Most people would say if you're even invited, you're obligated to give a gift. I generally buy a gift if I'm invited.

Yes.

Missed a friend's wedding last month to be at a, uhm, celebration thingy in another state. They invited me and I knew I would still be seeing them post-trip, so I bought a gift and had it shipped just before the wedding (the Shamwow! set. Not kidding. They registered for it. HAD to.).

Also went to a destination wedding (well, they live in Hawaii, none of the guests do) and they insisted no one buy a gift. Almost all of us did and, IMHO, the gifts were better than normal since they weren't registered anywhere. I brought them gifts I knew would be used/mean something.

But seriously, bring a gift. Especially if you're at the ceremony and not the reception.

If I could have registered for the Shamwow deal, I would have.

 

[Bubbler]

I can't remember the last time I was invited to a wedding. And yes, I know what that says about me.

If I knew you then, I'd have invited you.