Wedding question

[Magic In The Night]

I say, because you're going to the ceremony, you should give something. If you're not going to any part of the wedding or reception and you send in the no card, you're not obligated to buy a gift. I have done this several times.

 

[RickStain]

People are lazy, unthinking spenders in every facet of life.

Our wedding was under $1,500 and it was awesome.

 

[User 1019]

People are lazy, unthinking spenders in every facet of life.

Our wedding was under $1,500 and it was awesome.

Same here.

 

[RedHotChiliPrepper]

Why are you skipping the reception? Work?

For the most part. And my total dislike of weddings.

You dislike free food and single, desperate women?

I'm guessing you are not married because this thread would have never started if you had a wife... right?

Was in a wedding this summer and somehow, all the bridesmaids were either engaged or marries with five single groomsmen. Needless to say, none of us got any that night.

And along the same lines, if you're asked to be in someone's wedding, should you still give a gift? I mean, I spent $140 on my tux for the wedding. My sister said a gift wasn't necessary since I was paying for my tux, but I still obligated to do something. So I bought the groom (my best friend) a bottle of Jack Daniels, and his wife a bottle of her favorite wine. Did I do too much?

 

[User 1019]

Nah. You done good.

 

[Dude]

For anyone that cares. Ceremony was attended. Half hour of life was wasted. $100 gift was given. Reception was skipped.

 

[RickStain]

For anyone that cares. Ceremony was attended. Half hour of life was wasted. $100 gift was given. Reception was skipped.

I want to be your friend. I don't think I got a $100 gift from anyone who didn't contribute to my genetic makeup.

 

[zeke12]

For anyone that cares. Ceremony was attended. Half hour of life was wasted. $100 gift was given. Reception was skipped.

Wow. Well, hope it was a nice ceremony?

 

[wicked]

Isn't $100 the minimum nowadays? Recently was told by multiple female friends that you're supposed to give enough to cover your plate. Don't know how true it is ...

Dude, I was invited to the wedding of an ex/good friend last year and, then living five hours away, was skeptical about attending. I nutted up, took a day off work and drove down, and was glad I attended. Figured if it was important enough for me to be invited even though I lived far away, the least I could do was show up.

 

[Dude]

Zeke12, It was a typical service. Some priest talking about God, Jesus, etc. Lucky it was only a half hour.

Wicked, I was given a lot of grief for not going to the reception by a lot of people. I was even told to **** myself when I walked into the church by one friend who was really pissed. Stuff like that was one reason I was really hesitant to even attend the ceremony.

 

[luckyducky]

Wicked, I was given a lot of grief for opting not going to the reception by a lot of people. I was even told to **** myself when I walked into the church by one friend who was really pissed. Stuff like that was one reason I was really hesitant to even attend the ceremony.

See, and those are the kind of people I would question being friends with. It's one thing for the couple getting married to be ticked you won't be there, but it's another if it's other friends/guests. It's not their wedding. IMHO, they can go f--k themselves.

 

[Det. Jimmy McNulty]

The only shocking thing is that someone has to ask this question.

Yes. And stop bitching about everything else.

Word.

Get a second job, you ****ing loser.

 

[Det. Jimmy McNulty]

$100 gift? God you're stupid.

 

[Det. Jimmy McNulty]

Recently was told by multiple female friends

There's your problem.

 

[BTExpress]

Wicked, I was given a lot of grief for opting not going to the reception by a lot of people.

I cannot imagine wasting one nanosecond of my life giving someone grief because they didn't attend a wedding reception. There are times I really do think God put me on the wrong planet.


An aunt and uncle did not attend my wedding, because they could not locate the extremely-out-of-the-way chapel. They had tried a dry run beforehand but could not find it and simply were too nervous to try it again.

But they attended a post-wedding dinner afterward in an easy-to-locate restaurant. Suppose we could have given them grief for not attending the wedding, but the thought never crossed my mind. Life is too short to worry about **** like that.

 

[Dude]

Wicked, I was given a lot of grief for opting not going to the reception by a lot of people.

I cannot imagine wasting one nanosecond of my life giving someone grief because they didn't attend a wedding reception. There are times I really do think God put me on the wrong planet.


An aunt and uncle did not attend my wedding, because they could not locate the extremely-out-of-the-way chapel. They had tried a dry run beforehand but could not find it and simply were too nervous to try it again.

But they attended a post-wedding dinner afterward in an easy-to-locate restaurant. Suppose we could have given them grief for not attending the wedding, but the thought never crossed my mind. Life is too short to worry about **** like that.

This part is actually relevant to a lot of folks on this board.

I have a team beat. The team had a game last night. I had to cover it. It's my job.

My friends couldn't understand that. It's not like the team was going to postpone the game for me. And for what I do, there really isn't anyone who can fill in for me.

I basically equated it to me scheduling a wedding at 10 a.m. on a Tuesday morning and getting pissed no one with a "normal" 9-5 job could attend.

 

[Cadet]

Then I can only imagine you suck as a reporter, because dear lord did you bury the lede.

Here's how your initial post should have read:

I've been invited to the wedding of a couple I'm not very close to. I can make the ceremony, but I can't make the reception because I'm a beat writer and there's a game that night. I don't really have a backup, because they were laid off last summer, so I have to go to the game. Most of my friends don't understand this, because they don't understand my job, and so they're upset I would be skipping the reception. So should I go to the ceremony if I can't go to the reception? Or should I skip it all? If I skip it, am I still obligated to give a gift?

I think your stunning social graces are the result of not being able to properly explain the situation to people who need to know.