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Tripp McNeely

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The day we all had dreaded had arrived.
I received a message on the computer. A few of my co-workers were having lunch together before going in for our shift when a cell phone rang. It was the paper asking that the worker "come in for a meeting."
The message hung on my computer screen and I knew what it meant. We all did.
Anyone who's read the Journalism Topics section knows what's been going on at several newspapers. Ours was just the latest.
I started to tear up, knowing that the man who had just been let go is a husband and father of four. What is he going to do now?
Moments later, my phone rang. I froze, before looking down and seeing another co-worker's number. This one, my best friend.
"Well, it was nice working with you," he said, more than a hint of anger and disappointment in his voice.
"You heard from (name omitted)?" I asked?
"Yes. They want me to come down for a meeting. I asked if I needed to bring my playbook and he said yes, if that's how you want to put it."
I was stuck. My voice caught. My eyes started to puff and nose started to run. I tried to talk, but I couldn't. My best friend, married with a 1-year-old son, who had started at the paper longer than anyone else in the department, was gone.
I tried to tell him I was sorry, to comfort him, to tell him I'd help out any way I could.
"Hello?" he asked?
"Yeah ...Sorry" I choked out.
More silence. Finally, I was able to ask if I could call him back. He said yes, and I hung up.
Every time the hurt would subside, a new name would arise. Someone who I had worked side by side with. A person I had gone to battle with against deadline while working the copy desk.
Gone.
Gone with nothing but a pittance of a severance package.
I called my friend back and apologized for my demeanor. I said all the things I wanted to say and then we hung up.
I had to go to work.
The day got a little brighter when I got to the office. Many of our workers had to reapply for job transfers to another paper in the area. There were almost double the applicants for the spots available.
Nearly all of my other co-workers/friends landed positions. All hardworking guys who deserve to still pull a paycheck.
It was a bittersweet night, though. On Thursday, I'll go into the office and it will be barren in comparison to what it usually is. Copy editors and designers will be working elsewhere, or, in the case of four men, looking for work altogether.
I walked out the door tonight knowing the relationships I built will never be the same again. We were a team, a unit. I dare say it's as close to playing on a sports team as there can be. Each fighting for the common goal. Thursday, I'll be there alone, doing my thing and sending my work through a computer to the production staff.
Jokes and snarky remarks will remain in my head. Dinners will be quiet. Watching games won't be nearly as fun in the office, now.
The business has changed and now, my life has changed.
Things won't ever be the same, again.
I'll miss you guys.
 
i'm sorry for your friends, tripp. i hope you guys can bounce back.
 
That sucks Tripp. Hopefully things will start taking a turn for the better one of these days.
 
That blows, Tripp. I have a feeling we will all be dealing with this... sooner, rather than later.

Hope things take a better turn.

Hang in there.
 
I'm about to feel your pain a lot more than I want to today, Tripp. My condolences.
 
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buckweaver said:
I'm about to feel your pain a lot more than I want to today, Tripp. My condolences.

Even though I am not in your guys' industry, I really feel for you guys. This sucks.

Are you saying what I think you're saying, buck?
 
Reading the post brought back all the memories of how I felt when I went through that a few years ago. It was the only time I was unable to concentrate at work, and I actually had to take a timeout to go for a walk and get myself back together. It was also then and there that I decided I've had enough of this industry.

Hang in there guys.
 
Best advice I can give you, Tripp:

Don't succumb to survivor's guilt. To do that and let your work slip is, if unintentionally, an insult to those who were let go.
Also, what happened isn't your fault and no one can hold it against you if you continue to work hard for a company that laid off your friends.

Second, know that most, if not all, those let go will end up okay and, often, in a better spot.
Sometimes that jolt - and I know it from both sides - can spur changes in one's demeanor that are actually positive. If you and your colleagues are young and it was the first real journalism job you had, it can be like a bird being kicked out of the nest - forced out of the comfort zone only to discover a big and bright world out there.

It's not unlike a player being cut or being traded - a realization that it's a business - that takes the emotion out of your work day.
Doesn't mean you care any less, just that the high and lows become more balanced, allowing you to actually concentrate on life outside the work walls - all those things you can control to a far greater degree.

That famous quote from Shawshank has a lot of meaning - get busy living, or get busy dying.


What you are goign through is not easy, and like I said, I've seen it from both sides, but the things you think you have lost will return, though in a different form.

You'll actually get more out of them the second time 'round.
 
It could wind up being the best thing that ever happened to your friend. That may not help now, but check up on your friend(s). They didn't just stop being people just because they got whacked.
 
Sorry Tripp. I have a feeling more of us on the board will soon know what you just went through. Hope the best for your friends in finding new gigs.
 
spaceman said:
It could wind up being the best thing that ever happened to your friend. That may not help now, but check up on your friend(s). They didn't just stop being people just because they got whacked.

Absolutely. Often it seems people avoid those who were laid off because they think it's awkward - almost like talking to someone with cancer.

But one of the worst parts of being laid off is the sudden loss of contact. it can make someone feel like they've been completely left behind.

Give them a call, hook up with them, help them feel valued.
 
EE94 said:
spaceman said:
It could wind up being the best thing that ever happened to your friend. That may not help now, but check up on your friend(s). They didn't just stop being people just because they got whacked.

Absolutely. Often it seems people avoid those who were laid off because they think it's awkward - almost like talking to someone with cancer.

But one of the worst parts of being laid off is the sudden loss of contact. it can make someone feel like they've been completely left behind.

Give them a call, hook up with them, help them feel valued.

Fortunately for those who got whacked, once they land on their feet (or land on their asses, then stand up and dust themselves off), they'll realize that those who didn't get whacked are the ones who, in many ways, got completely left behind.

There is something to be said about facing the hard crossroads now and heading down the new path, rather than hanging on only to face it in five or 10 years.

But since the management that whacked these good folks didn't do it with their future well-being in mind, it will never, ever deserve a thank you, no matter how well things work out down the road for the whackees.
 
Tripp:
I feel for all of you guys.
I've been through that, when a number of close friends were laid off in one fell swoop. All have landed solid jobs in or out of the business since then.
I know one thing: It was really good for my career, because my comfort zone was gone along with so many friends and I finally was spurred to get off my duff and find a better job. Which I soon did.
 
The best things you can do for your former colleagues is to keep your eyes and ears open for openings they might be interested in, either in journalism or a related field. If you used to hang out together, continue to do so. They didn't die -- they're just unemployed. And if you didn't hang out, give a call to those that you were closer to, and get together sometime to play golf on your day off or meet for lunch.

Go ahead and mention how much extra work you guys are pulling now that they're gone. It won't bother them to know they're missed. Do NOT tell them, 'Maybe it's for the best, because now they can move on.' It's too pollyanna. It's never better to be unemployed, with bills due and a family to support.
 

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