Purity balls - chastity pledges gone wrong

[EStreetJoe]

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2586036/You-married-Lord-daddy-boyfriend-Purity-Balls-girls-gift-virginity-fathers-marriage-sweep-America.html

I've never heard of them until seeing this article and it just sounds so wrong.

 

[Starman]

'You keep this on your finger and as this point you are married to the Lord and your father is your boyfriend,' Ron explains in the new documentary

So THAT'S how it is in their family ...

 

[Mystery Meat II]

'You keep this on your finger and as this point you are married to the Lord and your father is your boyfriend,' Ron explains in the new documentary

Wait, so they're advocating for chastity while allowing you to have a husband AND a boyfriend?

 

[ColdCat]

are purity balls anything like ben-wa balls?

 

[Starman]

The obsession of rightwingers in sticking their heads (and fingers and other implements) into any vajayjay they can get ahold of, including their own daughters,' continues to be remarkable.

 

[imjustagirl]

I would log on to Twitter just to misuse #PurityBalls.

 

[Mystery Meat II]

I would log on to Twitter just to misuse #PurityBalls.

You don't need Twitter for that

 

[Bradley Guire]

1. Purity Balls? Surely they could have called them something else to not invite the crass jokes that people like I will make.

2. I heard kissing gets you pregnant.

3. Can't wait until the first scandal in which boyfriend daddy knocks up precious. What a **** storm in the making. I understand that dads trying to keep their daughters from being sluts or teen moms at 15, but some of this stuff is worded so poorly as to make it weird.

4. It's sexist unless teen boys are taking their moms as their girlfriends until marriage.

 

[LongTimeListener]

Purity balls -- now they're organic!

 

[KJIM]

I've never heard of them until seeing this article and it just sounds so wrong.

Haven't been here long, have you?
http://www.sportsjournalists.com/forum/posts/1860909/

Quote from: Cadet on 11-06-2008, 13:53:40

I see this as no better or worse than the Christian "purity balls" taking place in the United States where young girls pledge their virginity to their fathers for "safekeeping" until they marry. New York Times also did an article on this practice.

It's an attempt by a religious culture to control women's sexuality through manipulation of self-esteem and fear of retribution.

http://www.nytimes.com/glogin?URI=http://www.nytimes.com/2008/05/19/us/19purity.html&OQ=_rQ3D1&OP=6274c511Q2FfsVzfPQ2F0mQ26Q2FQ2FQ5E8f8UUtfUXf!Q7Df7mf!Q7Dq7Q26xQ5Ebv-Q5E2Q5C


I think a "purity ball" is a bit, uh, heh, and I'm no fan of the Family Research Council, but you're equivocating some phony dance with a medical operation in which a woman's hymen is reattached so she can be viable for marriage. They're not the same.

 

[schiezainc]

There's a part of me that wants to go to each and every one of these areas, research these "purity balls" from, oh, six-seven years ago, find all the girls who "pledged" themselves and find out how many are still virgins. And I mean real virgins, not "It doesn't count until the P enters the V" virgins.
I bet there's not much of a difference between the average age these girls are giving it up and the average age of a non-brainwashed kid giving it up.

 

[Beef03]

This is all kinds of ****ed up. Has dad polishing his shotgun on the porch as the boyfriend drives up to pick up the daughter gone out of style? Sanctioning fathers as boyfriends just brings it to new levels of creepiness. Why don't they just push for polygamy and inbreeding, as clearly daddy knows best? Not sure my skin could crawl more.

Also, is there any focus on getting the boys to keep it in their pants and from knocking up their 14-year-old daughters? Or are we still dealing with boys will be boys?

 

[LongTimeListener]

Beef, it's more about controlling what you can control.

These dads and the purity stuff is freakishly creepy, don't associate me with that. But in answer to what the boys are being taught ... a parent of a teenage girl doesn't have the luxury of assuming every parent of every boy is reading from the same playbook. At some point, a girl will encounter a horny boy. And the biological truth is the boy doesn't pay the same price if a pregnancy results.

Good public policy to educate the boys more. Mostly irrelevant within one's own family, though.

 

[TrooperBari]

There's a part of me that wants to go to each and every one of these areas, research these "purity balls" from, oh, six-seven years ago, find all the girls who "pledged" themselves and find out how many are still virgins. And I mean real virgins, not "It doesn't count until the P enters the V" virgins.
I bet there's not much of a difference between the average age these girls are giving it up and the average age of a non-brainwashed kid giving it up.

The track record of these pledges appears to be mixed.

http://www.patheos.com/blogs/friendlyatheist/2014/03/22/at-purity-balls-christian-dads-get-really-involved-with-their-daughters-virginity-and-become-their-boyfriends/
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2008/12/28/AR2008122801588.html

Teenagers who pledge to remain virgins until marriage are just as likely to have premarital sex as those who do not promise abstinence and are significantly less likely to use condoms and other forms of birth control when they do, according to a study released today.

The new analysis of data from a large federal survey found that more than half of youths became sexually active before marriage regardless of whether they had taken a "virginity pledge," but that the percentage who took precautions against pregnancy or sexually transmitted diseases was 10 points lower for pledgers than for non-pledgers.

"Taking a pledge doesn't seem to make any difference at all in any sexual behavior," said Janet E. Rosenbaum of the Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health, whose report appears in the January issue of the journal Pediatrics. "But it does seem to make a difference in condom use and other forms of birth control that is quite striking."

 

[Buck]

1. ... 'sweeping America' seems like a gross overstatement.

B. ew

iii. I stayed at the Broadmoor last year. Wow, is that place nice.