How old were you when you got married?

[John B. Foster]

I was 23-years-old when I got married. I’m still with my wife, and still in love with her, however, we have both discussed together that if we had to do it again, we would have waited a few more years(we’re both the same age).

How old were you when you got married, and if you could do it all over again, would you do it at the same stage of your life or wait a little?

Same with children. Unfortunately, we cannot have any.

 

[Songbird]

47 and still un-

 

[BTExpress]

47. Celebrated 10-year anniversary last Saturday.

 

[Steak Snabler]

40. Had first child at 45.

 

[HC]

58 and JR was 69. Probably won't have kids. ;)

 

[Webster]

Was 31 when I got married, which was just about the right time. I don’t think I was mature enough earlier — almost got married at 24 or so, which would have been a disaster.

We waited a few years to try to have kids because we wanted to travel and both of our careers were very busy. Ended up having kids at 35 and 38 which was old than I would have thought in my mind when I was younger, but was right for us. We were pretty clueless with our first, but I think that would have been true 10 years earlier or later

 

[Spartan Squad]

I was 29 about to turn 30. I was at the right place in my life for sure.

 

[qtlaw]

33 and kids at 36&38. I proposed to my wife after 3 weeks and married 7 mos later; now we’re going 23 yrs strong.

Now I’d like to be younger w my kids but I wasn’t mature enough. Blows me away, when my mom was my age now, I was already out of law school 3yrs.

 

[micropolitan guy]

35, and 43. Glad I waited on both counts. I graduated from college a week before my dad's 50th birthday. My son was just about ready to start first grade on my 50th birthday.

 

[ChrisLong]

Married at 36 and wife delivered our daughter when I was 40. In my early 30s I decided I'd never get married. Then the right person came along. Funny how that happens. I never felt I was too old when my daughter was growing up. But, during all of her group ventures -- soccer, girls scouts, volleyball -- I was the oldest parent.

 

[outofplace]

I was married at 27. I was 31 when our daughter was born. I'd happily do both at the same stage in my life again if I had the chance to do it all over again.

 

[MTM]

Married at 27 and again at 42. I was 46 when we adopted an 8 year old boy. I was often the oldest parent, which was fine. I even wrote about some of my son’s friend’s parents and teachers when they played high school sports.

The plan with Wife 1 was to have a child in 1990, which never happened. It’s odd to think I would have a 28 years old now.

 

[swingline]

43 and wife was 34. In four months, it will be seven years. We have a 10-year-old and a 4-year old. Being a first-time (and second-time) dad at 40 and 45 is ... something.

I was single for so long — except for a five-year relationship — that it's still a little bit of a struggle to give up my do-what-I-want-when-I-want ways. (I think one of those hyphens killed a kitten.) But, in truth, I probably would have drunk myself to death if I hadn't met my wife.

 

[RecoveringDesker]

I was 23 and she was 21. We had just graduated college and had been together since I was 20 and she was 18. Married 27 years now with three teenagers, the oldest in college. I wouldn’t change a thing. She’s perfect for me and I hope I’m perfect for her. We’re truly best friends and soulmates. I know I’m a truly lucky guy. The last 30 years have passed in the blink of an eye.

That said, the smartest thing we did was wait to have kids. I was 31 and she was 29 when kid one came along.

 

[RickStain]

I was 21 and she was 25

 

[Baron Scicluna]

We were 26 and had been together five years. Had our first at 27 and second at 30 and been married 19 years. Wouldn't have waited because all that happened right before the newspaper industry began crashing and it would have been more stress to deal with it if we waited.

 

[Starman]

I was 36, she was 28.
We went along ok for a couple years while we both had real ****hole jobs. I wanted kids but not while we were still scratching for nickels.

She had some health problems that made me nervous about kids too.

Then we both got new jobs at roughly double our previous pay. We moved across state, to her home region of the state. She reconnected with a bunch of her old friends.

We were making lots more money, but never seemed to catch up on any of our back debts. Every month or so she would "discover" an old student loan or credit card that had to be paid off, so we fell deeper and deeper and deeper in the hole.

We also got on 180- degree different work schedules; while I was working nights, she started bar-hopping with her old friends, who were serious party girls. These gals pounded it down.

One night a few of these booze hound-ettes were at our apartment when I came home. One of them decided to tell ME exactly what she thought of my work schedule and our marriage, in a screaming tirade in full earshot of the entire building.

Somehow she got out of the building on foot and not in a rubber bag, but how, I don't know. I've never ever raised a hand at my wife or any other significant other, but THAT *****, I was about a half-second away from demolishing.

Within a couple months my wife moved out; the divorce was final within a year.

I had been on the brink a couple times before (pregnancy scares): when i was 17, a senior in HS, and when I was 28-29, in my first dog-scratch newspaper job.

In each case, almost certainly, I'd have gotten married in another month or so, but both times the girl miscarried and we drifted apart into different lives.


Once in a while it does hit me: I could have a kid in their 40s now. Or early 30s. Yikes.

 

[Vombatus]

31 and wish I had opted for later or never, because I sure would have liked to have had a far greater understanding of bi-polar and that effing mother in law.

 

[Iron_chet]

Got married when I was 38. Never wanted to get married until I felt I had my **** together with a decent career going. Parents were always broke so didn’t want to have kids until I had some consistent cash flow.

Daughter born when I was 41 and son at 44. Also have a 21 year old step daughter so our house can be a gong show of activity (which I love.)

I have reconciled that I most likely won’t get to be a cool grandpa.

I thought I would always be the obvious oldest at my kid’s activities but lots of older parents out there and I seem to be perceived younger than I am at 51.

 

[Scout]

38 married
39 first and only child
11 years later things are probably better than ever