Girls...as friends?

[jakewriter82]

Pardon the late-night thread starting, but reading the "cute" thread got me thinking....is it possible for a guy and a girl to be friends? If having sex isn't possible based on situational factors, can you, if you're a guy, be friends with a female?

Whenever I'm talking to a gal, though, I always find that in the back of my head that possibility that she wants to rip my clothes off and sodomize me where I'm standing. Usually doesn't happen, but it's nice knowing it could. :-)

 

[BYH]

You saw When Harry Met Sally, right?

That's men and women in a nutshell.

 

[sportschick]

Women can be friends with men, not so sure it works the other way.

 

[Angola!]

Wait, the first thing you think of when a girl wants to rip off your clothes, is she wants to sodomize you?












Make sure you have plenty of toothpaste. Got to keep that **** pearly white.

 

[jakewriter82]

Women can be friends with men, not so sure it works the other way.

How is it that women have the ability to turn off the "rawr" switch, while men can't so much?

Can a guy get a girl to turn the switch back on even if it's been turned off for a while? Or is it all up to her?

 

[sportschick]

Make sure you have plenty of toothpaste. Got to keep that **** pearly white.

This is among the funniest things ever posted on here.

 

[sportschick]

Women can be friends with men, not so sure it works the other way.

How is it that women have the ability to turn off the "rawr" switch, while men can't so much?

Can a guy get a girl to turn the switch back on even if it's been turned off for a while? Or is it all up to her?

Most women view the world differently from men. We aren't hard-wired to spread out seed to as many members of the opposite sex as possible.

And a friendship can turn into a relationship.

 

[jakewriter82]

Wait, the first thing you think of when a girl wants to rip off your clothes, is she wants to sodomize you?












Make sure you have plenty of toothpaste. Got to keep that **** pearly white.

Well, sodomize as the "uncontrollable animal sex" definition, not the "I'll take it in the rear" definition. But I'd definitely need the toothpaste. :-p

 

[Bruce Leroy]

It's possible, but I say it takes one of two circumstances. Either you know a female through mutual friends and you're around her enough to get to know she's cool even if she's not physically attractive, or you wanted to get with her from Day One but it never happened for whatever reason and you got to the point where you're just friends. I have female friends stemming from both scenarios.

 

[ADifferentOkie]

Is it possible? Yes.
However, I think any guy who is friends with a girl that is attractive will always have thoughts of being with her.
I just don't buy the whole "I think of her like a sister" thing unless perhaps you grew up with the girl. Otherwise, it's a bull**** line used to keep her guard down while you try to weasel your way in.
My wife and I were friends first for years, BTW.

 

[Cadet]

Considering "I'll take it in the rear" is the legal definition of sodomize, I think the word you're looking for is "ravish."

 

[jakewriter82]

Considering "I'll take it in the rear" is the legal definition of sodomize, I think the word you're looking for is "ravish."

Thanks, I was thinking that when I posted it. Ravish is the better word.

 

[ArnoldBabar]

My best friend of 10 years is a woman who was introduced to me by mutual friends when she moved here (I think the friends intended it as a setup). Aside from a conversation after a couple of weeks of hanging out, in which we decided we'd be better off as friends, the subject has never even come up.

She's an attractive girl, and for most of the time we've known each other we've been in our 30s and desperately single. But not a single hookup, not one drunken kiss. We've traveled a lot together, slept in the same bed on occasion, and nothing. Nobody believes us, but we've always been legitimately, truly platonic.

Even though we're both happily married now, I think our parents remain heartbroken that we didn't end up together. But since my lifetime failure rate in relationships is 99 percent, if we'd hooked up we probably wouldn't be friends today, and that would suck.

I know it's rare, but it happens.

 

[Sam Mills 51]

Thank you, Arnold.

Men and women can be friends. I have female friends in different facets of my life. I know what SC said about spreading seed is largely true, but some of us think with the correct head.

Like Arnold, I've had to dispel some ridiculous rumors hatched from overly gossipy sorts. It's amazing how some will draw some insane conclusion trying to connect dots that don't exist.

 

[Rex Harrison]

One of my best friends is a girl I met at work years ago. We were both married, and I became friends with her husband and she became friends with my wife. So we always did things in groups like dinner or movies or board games. We're still in touch even though we've both moved on from that job into different lives and thousands of miles apart.

But she was attractive and I still had the odd fantasy about nailing her. I have a ****, what do you expect?

 

[GBNF]

Tonight I went to one of the hottest clubs in my town, a pretty fun town, with my best friend and four hot girls. I've known the girls for 10 years, since freshman year of high school, and while I've been attracted to each of them at different points, never uh, "liked" them.

They are four of my best friends, and I cherish our friendships. They are AWESOME wingmen (women?) and give me incredible confidence walking into a club, especially when five guys buy me beers just because I'm with them. In the last three nights they've been here, we've gotten VIP service every night, front of the line, no cover and no wait. That's fun, too.

So, yes, you can be friends.

Of course, this is coming from someone who was in love with one of his best friends and tried ... and failed ... to make it more than that.
Ah well...

Great, great night.

 

[Guerrillascribe]

And a friendship can turn into a relationship.

True that. My wife and I met in January 1995 and struck up a fast, firm friendship that lasted after she left our paper in 1999 and went to North Carolina while I left for Mississippi later that year. We kept in contact through the years and all the moves and one weekend, while on a trans-Atlantic phone call, I decided to finally go and visit for a week or so.

I did and five days later we got married. Been four years now. I just wish we'd done it a lot sooner.

 

[ArnoldBabar]

Tonight I went to one of the hottest clubs in my town, a pretty fun town, with my best friend and four hot girls. I've known the girls for 10 years, since freshman year of high school, and while I've been attracted to each of them at different points, never uh, "liked" them.

They are four of my best friends, and I cherish our friendships. They are AWESOME wingmen (women?) and give me incredible confidence walking into a club, especially when five guys buy me beers just because I'm with them. In the last three nights they've been here, we've gotten VIP service every night, front of the line, no cover and no wait. That's fun, too.

So, yes, you can be friends.

Of course, this is coming from someone who was in love with one of his best friends and tried ... and failed ... to make it more than that.
Ah well...

Great, great night.

But you'd hit any one of them if they asked, right? That's why you're not just friends.

 

[buckweaver]

My two best friends are both girls -- one I've known since third grade, dated at the end of high school, and have stayed close since; the other I've known since seventh grade and never dated, traveled together, slept in the same bed together numerous times, gone out of my way to help and visit, etc., always close.

My other closest friend, who died way, way too young a few years ago, was also a girl.

So it's absolutely possible. Sometimes you have to have the conversation to figure things out, if there is mutual attraction. Sometimes you have to try a relationship, and figure out that it's better off as a friendship. Sometimes, the relationship never develops for one reason or another. Sometimes, it's unrequited attraction and that person has to swallow their pride before the friendship can work.

In all cases, the friendship's important enough to keep so you do what you have to do to keep that person in your life.

 

[GBNF]

Tonight I went to one of the hottest clubs in my town, a pretty fun town, with my best friend and four hot girls. I've known the girls for 10 years, since freshman year of high school, and while I've been attracted to each of them at different points, never uh, "liked" them.

They are four of my best friends, and I cherish our friendships. They are AWESOME wingmen (women?) and give me incredible confidence walking into a club, especially when five guys buy me beers just because I'm with them. In the last three nights they've been here, we've gotten VIP service every night, front of the line, no cover and no wait. That's fun, too.

So, yes, you can be friends.

Of course, this is coming from someone who was in love with one of his best friends and tried ... and failed ... to make it more than that.
Ah well...

Great, great night.

But you'd hit any one of them if they asked, right? That's why you're not just friends.

Well, no, A_B, because they all have boyfriends. But of course I would, I'm a guy. That doesn't make us more than just friends. Why would it?