Updated: To turn down or not to turn down a menage a trois?

[Clever username]

Let me start off by saying that this is not my scenario, it's a non-journalism buddy's. I'd be fortunate to find myself in a menage a deux at this point. But anyway, the scenario/question:

My friend's girlfriend recently threw it out there that she'd be down with a three-way, the third being a girl, a close friend of hers. She asked my friend what he thought of that and instantly said he was down. It hasn't gone any further than that at this point, but this is where I seek your counsel.

My initial thought was to shake his hand and congratulate him. But I didn't because I actually don't think this would be a good idea for him. This girl is his first serious girlfriend, they've been dating for about seven months and the L-bomb has been dropped on both fronts.

However, I'm thinking that introducing a third party would only complicate matters and lead to an end of the relationship. Even if the girlfriend thinks it would be hot or whatever to watch my buddy plow another girl, I'm guessing her opinion on that would change as soon as it actually happens. Also, my friend really does love his girlfriend and barely knows the other girl. How's he supposed to feel, since he's not a scumbag, about that? Somehow I think he would be hesitant to do much with the other girl or would be completely mind****ed afterward if he did.

I advised against. Your thoughts?


And Moddy, let me know if I need to change the thread title. This one seems safe/cool but I'm not sure.

 

[beefncheddar]

Re: To turn down or not to turn down a menage a trois?

You voted WHAT?

Hit. It.

Hell, Hit it, and it, and videotape it.

 

[spup1122]

Re: To turn down or not to turn down a menage a trois?

What if this is the chick's way of telling him she likes the *****?

 

[Clever username]

Re: To turn down or not to turn down a menage a trois?

You voted WHAT?

Hit. It.

Hell, Hit it, and it, and videotape it.

Is the one experience worth screwing up his relationship, though? I guess that's the basic gyst of the question.

 

[Clever username]

Re: To turn down or not to turn down a menage a trois?

What if this is the chick's way of telling him she likes the *****?

Well, I think it's clear she's at least interested in finding out.

Do you mean, though, that she's trying to find a less hurtful way out of the relationship?

 

[beefncheddar]

Re: To turn down or not to turn down a menage a trois?

If it's his first serious relationship, then there's plenty of time/other women out there.

Only reason to say "No" is if he's got some kind of problem that'll preventing him from landing another woman.

 

[Clever username]

Re: To turn down or not to turn down a menage a trois?

If it's his first serious relationship, then there's plenty of time/other women out there.

Only reason to say "No" is if he's got some kind of problem that'll preventing him from landing another woman.

Well, it was lack of confidence. But a three-way might rectify that.

 

[melock]

Re: To turn down or not to turn down a menage a trois?

However, I'm thinking that introducing a third party would only complicate matters and lead to an end of the relationship. Even if the girlfriend thinks it would be hot or whatever to watch my buddy SMASH another girl, I'm guessing her opinion on that would change as soon as it actually happens. Also, my friend really does love his girlfriend and barely knows the other girl. How's he supposed to feel, since he's not a scumbag, about that? Somehow I think he would be hesitant to do much with the other girl or would be completely mind****ed afterward if he did.

Fixed.

I also advise against. If he wants two girls take him to the strip club! That's always my advice. No matter what the situation go to the strip club. All the great decisions in this country's history are made in the presence of strippers!

 

[Tommy_Dreamer]

Re: To turn down or not to turn down a menage a trois?

When I first saw this thread I thought boots was letting his imagination get the best of him again.

While my first reaction to reading the post would be to hit it. I've known people that have had this come up, they went for it and the relationship ended up failing.

 

[westcoastvol]

Re: To turn down or not to turn down a menage a trois?

He's gotta do it.

Or he can spend the rest of his life thinking about it while he's sitting on the can, **** in hand, jerking off thinking about what coulda been. Especially if the wife turned the cooter and blowjob machine off after she pooped out the last young'n.

 

[Clever username]

Re: To turn down or not to turn down a menage a trois?

However, I'm thinking that introducing a third party would only complicate matters and lead to an end of the relationship. Even if the girlfriend thinks it would be hot or whatever to watch my buddy SMASH another girl, I'm guessing her opinion on that would change as soon as it actually happens. Also, my friend really does love his girlfriend and barely knows the other girl. How's he supposed to feel, since he's not a scumbag, about that? Somehow I think he would be hesitant to do much with the other girl or would be completely mind****ed afterward if he did.

Fixed.

I also advise against. If he wants two girls take him to the strip club! That's always my advice. No matter what the situation go to the strip club. All the great decisions in this country's history are made in the presence of strippers!

I used your word and you change it on me. *******!

 

[XXXX]

Re: To turn down or not to turn down a menage a trois?

how long has the relationship lasted?

0-7 months: YES!!

8-14months: maybe

15 months and up: nah

but what would you guys do if your wife/girlfriend offered a threesome with her extremely hot friend, for a threesome with you, her, and another guy?

me and my buddies always toss this question out to each other with surprising responses.

 

[beefncheddar]

Re: To turn down or not to turn down a menage a trois?

It's his first relationship. Odds are pretty good it's going to fail, anyway. What better way to kill it than with a three-way? Or as our esteemed grill-finisher said, he can wait for it to fail and then kick himself for not taking his shot(s).

 

[beefncheddar]

Re: To turn down or not to turn down a menage a trois?

but what would you guys do if your wife/girlfriend offered a threesome with her extremely hot friend, for a threesome with you, her, and another guy?

**** that noise. I'm the only one bringing the sausage.

 

[westcoastvol]

Re: To turn down or not to turn down a menage a trois?

But here's the thing about threeways:

When it's two chicks and a ****, it's all about the chicks. She's satisfying her cooterosity. She knows what **** feels like.

In a threesome, it might start out hot and heavy or might work up to that at some point, but ultimately, someone's hanging on the sidelines. BFD. Grab a Gatorade, get it back up and jump in there.

Big advice: make sure everyone agrees on the ground rules first. The buddy has a talk with his girl. The girl has a separate sidebar with the other girl. That way, there's less awkwardness when the tequila and da jism start to flow.

 

[spup1122]

Re: To turn down or not to turn down a menage a trois?

I'm saying, what if it's her way to easily get out of the relationship... think Joey's first wife from Friends.

 

[Clever username]

Re: To turn down or not to turn down a menage a trois?

how long has the relationship lasted?

0-7 months: YES!!

8-14months: maybe

15 months and up: nah

but what would you guys do if your wife/girlfriend offered a threesome with her extremely hot friend, for a threesome with you, her, and another guy?

me and my buddies always toss this question out to each other with surprising responses.

I should mention that the other girl is Asian. I don't know about you guys, but one of my goals is sleep with at least one girl of each race before I get married. So it would be two birds with one stone.

I am so going to hell.

 

[Clever username]

Re: To turn down or not to turn down a menage a trois?

I'm saying, what if it's her way to easily get out of the relationship... think Joey's first wife from Friends.

I'm guessing you mean Ross, but point taken.

 

[Inky_Wretch]

Re: To turn down or not to turn down a menage a trois?

It's his first relationship. Odds are pretty good it's going to fail, anyway. What better way to kill it than with a three-way?

Agreed.

 

[Clever username]

Re: To turn down or not to turn down a menage a trois?

It's his first relationship. Odds are pretty good it's going to fail, anyway. What better way to kill it than with a three-way?

Agreed.

I didn't think about that and I agree, in a way. Though I'm not sure how he'd feel about that.