The Deep Discussion...

[daytonadan1983]

I've been told that the main board can handle this subject, so let's go.

I had an ulterior motive to that perfect moment post the other day.

You really wanna know my quality of life these days? What life? It's all health related. If I'm not at a doctor, Im at treatment or at home where good and bad days are 50-50 and no matter what, you still have a drive line coming out of your stomach and the battery operated life support needs changing every12-16 hours.

Still, I endure, primary because it would be a disrespect to the amazing work of the health care team. And hell, maybe one day I'll be golfing or bowling like some of the others who had this surgery.

I took some time to review the life-- hence the perfect moments (add standing on the corner in Winslow Arizona and Walt Frazier telling the Madison Square Garden staff to let you and your team on the court after the Knicks game) and Damn, I've havent done everything but I have done more than enough....

It comes down to this -- I'm gonna keep fighting, but if an angel shows up and says "let's go", Im gonna pause a second and say "OK,but we can we stop by Bethune Grill for some wings on the way"? (Daytona thing)

So yeah, that's it. What I'm asking I think "Is this a good place?" All thoughts and feedback appreciated.

Thanks.

 

[dixiehack]

Man, a lot deeper topic than I can properly discuss at 1 am.

I don’t think being at peace with how it works out is the same as giving up. Not at all. If you have earned nothing else, you have earned the right not to perform. Feel your feelings man.

Love you friend.

 

[Here me roar]

I've always thought that how we lose is equally important is how we win. And I think how we face the end is equally important as how we faced all the rest of it. I don't think there's enough introspection, and certainly not enough conversation, about this.

 

[OscarMadison]

Hi! I hope you're in a better space tonight. I've been in and out of hospitals with CHF, blindness, and now working through an amputation. This is year six of one damned thing after another. I can't offer any wisdom. Sometimes what keeps me going is sheer bloody mindedness.I wish that for you. I'm a terrible pen pal, Hit me up if you ever need to vent.

 

[Slacker]

We love you, Dan and Oscar.

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[Shropshire Slasher]

Best wishes to all! I've been damned lucky on the health front but I have a good doc and good genes to go with it.

You haven't lived until you rode in the back seat of Papaw's and Memaw's station wagon with your loser uncle to see your great-Grampa across the county, and all 3 smoked with the windows rolled up.

Everybody has a loser uncle. I had one on each side of the family.

 

[BurnsWhenIPee]

Not sure this is the place for it, or if there is a place, but have to mention it to someone ...

Took a July 4th trip to visit family, with my wife and grown daughter, and saw a couple of aunts and uncles who I've always been close with. One of the uncles had a couple of strokes over the last year, is 77 years old, and is (understandably) looking very frail and fragile. It struck all of us that this could easily (probably?) be the last time we see him.

Then on the way home, a song came on SiriusXM - "At the Beach, in Every Life" by Gigi Perez. At the end, there's what sounds like a voicemail message, with a woman (her?) saying, "I just want to say 'I love you' one more time. I love you! Goodbye!"

It hit me like a ton of bricks, the reminder that every time you see someone, interact with someone, say I love you to family and loved ones, it could be the last time you get to do that, but none of you will know that's going to be the last time.

Glad I had my sunglasses on, and gave my daughter an extra-long hug when we dropped her off at her place.