Relationships

[Bucknutty]

So I'm curious, having just had a lengthy relationship fall apart in no small part due to my job: How many others has this happened to? I get the sense that it happens a lot in this profession, but I'd like to hear some stories. How can you make it work? How do you move past it?

 

[MertWindu]

Man, I'm gonna end up reading this thread way more than I should.

 

[Moderator1]

I'd be curious to do a sports departments survey.

Total marriages/number of employees. My bet is it would be WELL over 1 in most places. Yes, I'm sure the national average for all jobs would be - I bet ours would top the average easily.

I know several folks in this news room who are on No. 3. MANY more on No. 2.

Tough business on relationships. But at least we're underpaid.

 

[Ace]

So I'm curious, having just had a lengthy relationship fall apart in no small part due to my job: How many others has this happened to? I get the sense that it happens a lot in this profession, but I'd like to hear some stories. How can you make it work? How do you move past it?

Don't work so damn much. You put work first and what the hell do you think is going to happen to your personal life?

Oh, and if you by chance work with me ... never mind.

 

[Bucknutty]

So I'm curious, having just had a lengthy relationship fall apart in no small part due to my job: How many others has this happened to? I get the sense that it happens a lot in this profession, but I'd like to hear some stories. How can you make it work? How do you move past it?

Don't work so damn much. You put work first and what the hell do you think is going to happen to your personal life?

Oh, and if you by chance work with me ... never mind.

I could work less, but then I'd be stuck here for the rest of my life. Maybe I should mention I'm only 23, and I'd like to move to a better paper with less hours one day.

 

[Ace]

So I'm curious, having just had a lengthy relationship fall apart in no small part due to my job: How many others has this happened to? I get the sense that it happens a lot in this profession, but I'd like to hear some stories. How can you make it work? How do you move past it?

Don't work so damn much. You put work first and what the hell do you think is going to happen to your personal life?

Oh, and if you by chance work with me ... never mind.

I could work less, but then I'd be stuck here for the rest of my life. Maybe I should mention I'm only 23, and I'd like to move to a better paper with less hours one day.

She didn't deserve you anyway, then.

Hey, it's tough between the hours and the upredictable schedule. And at least in my day we had females who worked in the composing room who got off at the same time we did.

 

[zeke12]

Nurses.

They work crazy hours and make more money than you do.

Find the bars where the nurses hang out...

 

[Ace]

Nurses.

They work crazy hours and make more money than you do.

Find the bars where the nurses hang out...

Ever notice how many nurses smoke? What's the deal with that?

 

[Frank_Ridgeway]

A few jobs ago we had a new person on the desk and she said to one of the guys, "Geez, how do you balance these hours with having a marriage?"

"I'm the wrong person to ask," he said. "We're getting a divorce."

I never got as far as marriage before meeting my wife 13 years ago. By that time we both were in our mid-30s and liked our alone time. I kind of knew probably 10 years earlier that a smart, independent woman was the way to go, that anyone clingy would never be happy with me. But the thing about smart, independent women is that some of them don't necessarily want a commited relationship, they want to be on their own. This one liked her independence but liked having a longterm relationship, too. And with me she gets to have both.

 

[Flying Headbutt]

And at least in my day we had females who worked in the composing room who got off at the same time we did.

You never cared if they got off.

 

[Ace]

And at least in my day we had females who worked in the composing room who got off at the same time we did.

You never cared if they got off.

Well, it was a happy coincidence anyway.

 

[boots]

It's tough being a journalist and having a life. You will go through relationships and cars. You just have to keep stroking and hope that you can find an understanding person to be by your side.

 

[Ace]

It's tough being a journalist and having a life. You will go through relationships and cars. You just have to keep stroking and hope that you can find an understanding person to be by your side.

And someone to get your back

 

[outofplace]

And at least in my day we had females who worked in the composing room who got off at the same time we did.

You never cared if they got off.

It always makes things smoother in the relationship if you get off at the same time...

 

[Bucknutty]

Boy, it sure didn't take long for this thread to derail, lol.

 

[EStreetJoe]

had a long-term long-distance relationship fall apart in part because of the work schedule. Her complaining we don't get to see eachother often enough because I don't come down and visit enough (never mind the fact that she could never come up and visit me). So she turned out to be the wrong one for me.

Just got married last year to the love of my life. She understands the long hours a desk guy like myself can put in. She's more fustrated with my boss's inability to do the schedule more than 2 weeks in advance (kinda hard to plan a social life that way) than she is with the hours.

You need to do the little things to make the relationship work -- spend as much time together as possible on your days off, meet for lunch a few times a week if your partner's job allows (trying to be gender neutral for the female journalists in this situation).. and the big one - always put family & relationships first, the job second.

As far as marriage and sports journalists, quick stats for my department: 8 people: 6 married, 1 divorced, 1 never married. 4 of the 6 marrieds have kids. 2 of those with kids use child care issues as the excuse for being 30 minutes-2 hours late for a desk shift. All 6 of the marrieds are in their first marriage (1 for 20+ years, 2 or 3 for 10+ years)

 

[Shaggy]

A staff of 8 where I work has seven happy marriages and one single guy. I find that amazing.

 

[outofplace]

I think this business can lead to Denis Leary's keys to a successful marriage -- it takes a lot of love, communication and understanding....and stay the **** away from each other as much as possible.

But seriously, if the hours are a problem, either the person you are with will have to love you enough to stop bitching and appreciate what you have or you will lhave to ove that person enough to get out of the business. If you as a couple can't do one of those things, get the hell out now before the fallout from the eventual break-up gets worse.

 

[Cadet]

I had one guy who didn't get it at all. He though as soon as he proposed, I'd switch to a 9-to-5 job.

One of the many reasons he's an ex.

 

[Bob Slydell]

A staff of 8 where I work has seven happy marriages and one single guy. I find that amazing.

So really just one happy person then?