Relationships

[sportschick]

We girls don't even have nurses to turn to . . .

On our staff we have 5 guys married for more than 5 years, only two have kids though. One guy who recently got married, our SE is divorced, two folks who're engaged and three of us who are around 30 and single.

 

[zagoshe]

We girls don't even have nurses to turn to . . .

On our staff we have 5 guys married for more than 5 years, only two have kids though. One guy who recently got married, our SE is divorced, two folks who're engaged and three of us who are around 30 and single.

Well -- from where I sit -- one of you three single people can marry the SE and then the other two of you can marry each other.

Problem solved!

 

[sportschick]

That's wrong on so many levels zag.

 

[zeke12]

Nurses.

They work crazy hours and make more money than you do.

Find the bars where the nurses hang out...

Ever notice how many nurses smoke? What's the deal with that?

Don't look a gift horse in the mouth.

As someone once informed me on this board, if she smokes, she pokes.

 

[Omar_dont_scare]

I seem to have lucked out. Current lady friend works evening shift at a call center and is rather independent to begin with.

This morning, I was running late for a sitdown interview and she assisted in the frenzied getting-ready process.

I'm still a bit paranoid things will sour once football season arrives, only because I get in "work mode" as I get more mentally aggressive trying to compete on my beat from 100 miles away.

 

[zagoshe]

That's wrong on so many levels zag.

Well, I would, of course, at least give you the first choice......

 

[sportschick]

That's wrong on so many levels zag.

Well, I would, of course, at least give you the first choice......

That's so very kind of you, I guess.

 

[TrooperBari]

I'd be curious to do a sports departments survey.

Total marriages/number of employees. My bet is it would be WELL over 1 in most places. Yes, I'm sure the national average for all jobs would be - I bet ours would top the average easily.

I know several folks in this news room who are on No. 3. MANY more on No. 2.

Tough business on relationships. But at least we're underpaid.

First gig: 3 marriages (6 kids)/4 employees
Second gig: 0 marriages/1 employee
Now: 1 marriage (2 kids)/2 employees

 

[buckweaver]

First gig I: 4 single, 1 married -- then he got out of the biz
First gig II: 2 single, 2 married -- then they both got out of the biz
Second gig: 6 single, 2 divorced, 5 married (3 of those have U5 kids)

 

[Bump_Wills]

Jumping off Moddy's survey idea, a poll of baseball beat writers would be even more revealing. Damn near every one of them I know is divorced/had multiple marriages/is in a troubled marriage. The ones who can make it work are either incredibly disciplined, have incredibly understanding spouses, or some combination of the two.

I'm with Frank on this one: Finding someone who is independent-minded and has his/her own interests and pursuits is the way to go. When you meet someone in whom you're interested, better to lay out the whole truth about the job at the beginning -- the hours, the weekends, the holidays. If he/she bolts, well, as much as that sucks, it's better than the frustration of being involved with someone who harbors some notion that one day things will be different.

 

[pressmurphy]

My years as an ink-stained wretch prepared me well for dating a dancer.
Both of us worked into the early morning.
She got groped by customers; I had to deal with a unionized composing room.
Coaches called me with tips after games; coaches stuffed tips into her garter after games.
I worked for a company selling watered-down content; she worked for a company selling watered-down drinks.

 

[funky_mountain]

We girls don't even have nurses to turn to . . .

<gregfocker>there are male nurses, you know</gregfocker>

 

[sportschick]

We girls don't even have nurses to turn to . . .

<gregfocker>there are male nurses, you know</gregfocker>

Every one I've met batted for the other team . . .

 

[pressmurphy]

Every one I've met batted for the other team . . .

Nurses play softball? Cool!

 

[chazp]

Nurses.

They work crazy hours and make more money than you do.

Find the bars where the nurses hang out...

Nurses are really good with their hands. Which is a wonderful quality for a woman to have.

 

[chazp]

I could work less, but then I'd be stuck here for the rest of my life. Maybe I should mention I'm only 23, and I'd like to move to a better paper with less hours one day.

Good luck finding a paper that will let you work less hours!

 

[funky_mountain]

as to the question at hand, relationships aren't easy even if two people have similar work schedules. it takes more work to make it work than some people put into it, and i was guilty of that the first time around. my ex-wife understand my work schedule but was a horrible communicator (i had my faults, too). i won't blame the demise of the marriage on my schedule but it didn't help because a lot our conversations were of little substance and often over the phone.

these days, my wife understands my work schedule and communicates like a champ, and still she gets flustered. i had a work trip spring up on me last second and i get back from that trip the day before we leave for vacation. she vented this morning. i tried to alleviate her concerns. that's that.

someone who understands and communicates is essential no matter what you do.

 

[Cadet]

When you meet someone in whom you're interested, better to lay out the whole truth about the job at the beginning -- the hours, the weekends, the holidays. If he/she bolts, well, as much as that sucks, it's better than the frustration of being involved with someone who harbors some notion that one day things will be different.

This is part of what I refer to as my Third Date Speech. Selected phrases include:

I work in sports. Sports happens at night and on the weekends. Sports does not happen at noon on a Tuesday. When most people are not working, they recreate. If they are recreating, I have to be working. I love what I do, and I will not give it up for you.

Because I work in sports, I work mostly with men. You need to be secure enough to handle this fact. If you cannot be OK with this, you are not the guy for me.

(There are other parts of the Third Date Speech that deal with more personal issues, but you get the idea.)

 

[audreyld]

When you meet someone in whom you're interested, better to lay out the whole truth about the job at the beginning -- the hours, the weekends, the holidays. If he/she bolts, well, as much as that sucks, it's better than the frustration of being involved with someone who harbors some notion that one day things will be different.

This is part of what I refer to as my Third Date Speech. Selected phrases include:

I work in sports. Sports happens at night and on the weekends. Sports does not happen at noon on a Tuesday. When most people are not working, they recreate. If they are recreating, I have to be working. I love what I do, and I will not give it up for you.

Because I work in sports, I work mostly with men. You need to be secure enough to handle this fact. If you cannot be OK with this, you are not the guy for me.

(There are other parts of the Third Date Speech that deal with more personal issues, but you get the idea.)

I'm going to copy this into my book, Cadet. Sound stuff.

 

[Lester Bangs]

Nurses.

They work crazy hours and make more money than you do.

Find the bars where the nurses hang out...

Nurses are really good with their hands. Which is a wonderful quality for a woman to have.

They can also hurt you badly with very little effort.

My then-girlfriend and I moved from the same p.m. to an a.m. together for one of my first jobs. At the old place, I was sports editor doing days to produce the p.m. and she was a designer in ads, working 8-5, so it worked out well. I had to work at least a few nights a week, but it was tolerable. At the new gig she was still an ad designer -- and still worked 8-5 -- but I was now on the 3 p.m.-1 a.m. shift and this did not play so well. It was ****ing misery and is far worse when you actually have to make a choice, which is to say, you love the woman.

I left the business and am now in it on a freelance basis and as an educator. Some things are more important and I miss working in newsrooms, but it was the right decision for a lot of reasons.