Mr. or Miss [First Name]

[forever_town]

Especially in recent years, I've heard a lot more of people calling others "Mr. [first name]" or "Ms. [first name]."

I. freaking. hate. it.

If it's a child calling me that when I'm in a position of authority over the child, that's one thing. But when it's an adult, I can't stand it.

I get that in many cases, it's intended to be a sign of respect and I get that it's culturally ingrained a lot of times. Doesn't mean I like it, especially when I introduce myself as my first name. That means I want to be called by that first name, not "Mr." in front of that first name.

I also don't get it when people insist on calling me by my legal first name when I introduce myself by the short version. The name I introduce myself by is the name I want to be called. End. of. story.

 

[Steak Snabler]

It's a Southern thing. Always addressed my friend's parents in that manner, and do so with my in-laws as well.

 

[TheSportsPredictor]

I hate when women shake hands, especially with men.

 

[JackReacher]

I hate it when people say please and thank you.

 

[da man]

Especially in recent years, I've heard a lot more of people calling others "Mr. [first name]" or "Ms. [first name]."

I. freaking. hate. it.

If it's a child calling me that when I'm in a position of authority over the child, that's one thing. But when it's an adult, I can't stand it.

I get that in many cases, it's intended to be a sign of respect and I get that it's culturally ingrained a lot of times. Doesn't mean I like it, especially when I introduce myself as my first name. That means I want to be called by that first name, not "Mr." in front of that first name.

I also don't get it when people insist on calling me by my legal first name when I introduce myself by the short version. The name I introduce myself by is the name I want to be called. End. of. story.

Lighten up, Francis.

 

[cjericho]

I hate when women shake hands, especially with men.

They should curtsey and offer their hand to be kissed.

 

[Fly]

Lighten up, Francis.

That's MR. Francis!!!

 

[da man]

That's MR. Francis!!!

Well done.

 

[Batman]

I also don't get it when people insist on calling me by my legal first name when I introduce myself by the short version. The name I introduce myself by is the name I want to be called. End. of. story.

I'm the opposite of this. I use my full name because the short version is like fingernails on a chalkboard to me. I hate it. Once I went out of state to college and had a relatively clean break from all of my childhood associates who used the short version, I vowed never to use it again except with family and close friends who don't know any better.
Every so often, though, people who have only known me in adulthood constantly use the short version. It's not worth making a scene about it because I know they don't mean anything by it, but it's still grating.
One former co-worker, who was kind of a doofus and no one liked, famously asked, "Mind if I call you (short version)?"
Without missing a beat, I shot back, "Mind if I punch you in the face?"
He never called me by the short version.

 

[forever_town]

I'm the opposite of this. I use my full name because the short version is like fingernails on a chalkboard to me. I hate it.

The funny thing is I USED to hate the short version of my name and wanted people to call me by the longer version. I don't *hate* my legal first name, but I'd rather limit the people who call me by that name to family or close friends.

 

[Buck]

My general reaction to most things: I don't take offense or get bothered unless the person's intent was clearly to offend or bother.

 

[da man]

My general reaction to most things: I don't take offense or get bothered unless the person's intent was clearly to offend or bother.

Unfortunately, you are now the exception.

 

[Buck]

Unfortunately, you are now the exception.

It is unfortunate.

 

[JRoyal]

I hate it when people shorten my first name, but I find a lot of older men will call me "Jim" even if everyone else calls me "James." I'm usually too polite to tell them I hate that name.

 

[JackReacher]

I know someone who refuses to call people by their shorter name, even if it's crystal clear that the person goes by that shorter name. Jim is always James. Josh is always Joshua.

Very tilting.

 

[PaperDoll]

I hate it when people shorten my first name, but I find a lot of older men will call me "Jim" even if everyone else calls me "James." I'm usually too polite to tell them I hate that name.

If it bothers you, speak up. I don't answer to anything except my name. A seventh-grade teacher liked to use a nickname (which, for the record, is actually longer than my real name) and I frequently would turn and look out the window because he obviously wasn't speaking to me.

 

[HC]

My first name is Deborah, I introduce myself as Deborah and sign every email as Deborah. I can't tell you how many people immediately call me Deb or <shudder> Debbie. I find that really rude, especially in business correspondence.

Deb is for my friends and family. Debbie is for those who wish to die a painful death.

 

[da man]

I don't care what you call me. Just don't call me late for dinner.

 

[JRoyal]

If it bothers you, speak up. I don't answer to anything except my name. A seventh-grade teacher liked to use a nickname (which, for the record, is actually longer than my real name) and I frequently would turn and look out the window because he obviously wasn't speaking to me.

It's generally older men who do it, and I don't deal with most of them enough to worry about it. If I have to deal with them often, I'll usually say something the second or third time.