I should apologize, right?

[jr/shotglass]

Keeping a good thought for you and your Dad, Inky. I'd hope that I could handle this as well as you have.

 

[Matt1735]

I liked your post for how you handled it, but damn, sorry about your Dad. Brings back 16 year old memories. Dad went on home Hospice care for five months.

 

[swingline]

I'll be the one to say, **** apologizing. Those dickheads ****ed up and deserve no benefit of the doubt.

(God DAMN this election season is making me cranky. But I still don't apologize.)

Find a new place for your dad, and good luck.

 

[qtlaw]

Good for you for apologizing. Yes, everyone makes mistakes, we are all human.

As for the workers, it's unfortunate but they are doing a job and you are taking care of your father. Those are two vastly different places of mind.

Sorry to hear about hospice care. My dad went there a couple of years ago. I have to say, the care that the nurses and staff gave him was tremendous and to this day my family and I still talk about how fantastic they were. Hope your dad gets the same treatment.

 

[Azrael]

Thanks y'all. I sent an email late last night after I typed the initial post.

"I wanted to apologize to you for my behavior earlier today. I used language and a tone that was not acceptable - regardless of the circumstances.

"I am sorry for that."

And, after all that, it turns out that Dad is probably going to hospice now - despite the assisted living facility saying he was a good fit to live there. So all of that - moving his stuff, moving him, arguing with the staff - was pointless.

His kidneys are shutting down (if they haven't already). His kidney doctor called today with some blood test results and told us he doesn't have much time left.

Thanks again for the advice. For all the BS we sometimes inflict on each other, I love having this place for situations like this. I appreciate all y'all.

Sorry to hear this, brother. DM me if you need to vent.

I send love.

 

[2muchcoffeeman]

Thanks y'all. I sent an email late last night after I typed the initial post.

"I wanted to apologize to you for my behavior earlier today. I used language and a tone that was not acceptable - regardless of the circumstances.

"I am sorry for that."

And, after all that, it turns out that Dad is probably going to hospice now - despite the assisted living facility saying he was a good fit to live there. So all of that - moving his stuff, moving him, arguing with the staff - was pointless.

His kidneys are shutting down (if they haven't already). His kidney doctor called today with some blood test results and told us he doesn't have much time left.

Thanks again for the advice. For all the BS we sometimes inflict on each other, I love having this place for situations like this. I appreciate all y'all.

I'm sorry to read this. That said, hospice was absolutely wonderful for my mom at the end.

 

[Guy_Incognito]

So sorry to hear it.

 

[DanOregon]

Sorry to hear this Inky. These times are stressful enough. I wish you and your family some comfort in this difficult time.

 

[outofplace]

Thanks y'all. I sent an email late last night after I typed the initial post.

"I wanted to apologize to you for my behavior earlier today. I used language and a tone that was not acceptable - regardless of the circumstances.

"I am sorry for that."

And, after all that, it turns out that Dad is probably going to hospice now - despite the assisted living facility saying he was a good fit to live there. So all of that - moving his stuff, moving him, arguing with the staff - was pointless.

His kidneys are shutting down (if they haven't already). His kidney doctor called today with some blood test results and told us he doesn't have much time left.

Thanks again for the advice. For all the BS we sometimes inflict on each other, I love having this place for situations like this. I appreciate all y'all.

So sorry to hear that you are calling in hospice. You may still need to arrange for help in his care. We just went through this with my mother-in-law, though the situations were a little different. We ended up arranging for around-the-clock care with the help of hospice. Just be with him as much as you can, for him and for yourself.

Regarding the apology, that was well done. I might have included a reminder that even though you are apologizing for the way you reacted, they still screwed up and they should correct the flaws in how they handle such situation before making things harder on the next family that comes to them for help during a very difficult time.