GF advice needed

[melock]

Any news NY?

 

[Oz]

At this early stage of the relationship, I'd look at it this way:

At least she was honest enough to tell you, and now you know.

When it gets to that, wear a rubber and you'll be fine.

If things get serious, it will be something you have to deal with.

But if you really like the girl, I wouldn't blow her off over this. In fact, I'd give her points for being honest with you. I'd also realize that her telling you likely means she's thinking in serious terms.

Good luck, man.

Probably could have ended the thread with the first response. Well done, Zeke, summed up very nicely.

 

[sportschick]

I'm going to hell for this

 

[melock]

I'm going to hell for this

Well done.

 

[nybluepepper]

Not that anyone gives a rat's ass about me, but I think venting might help me out here.

After an agonizing couple of weeks, I broke it off today. She knew I had been trying to decide what to do about the situation and this morning she asked if I had given "us" anymore thought.

Here's what it came down to. I really liked this girl and she was the first one I've been excited to be with since my last ex. I was content to see where our relationship was going to go, but the STDs forced me to think much more seriously about where we were going much faster than I had expected.

In the end, I decided I didn't think things were going to work out. A statement she made one night when we had been drinking really stuck with me. She, being a religious person as I mentioned earlier in the thread, slipped up and said she didn't think she could be with a guy who wasn't religious.

We discussed it the next day and then "tabled" the topic for further discussion after we got to know each other better. Upon much reflection, I knew she was very serious about that thought. I also know that she likely believed I could change and might become more religious (I was an altar boy when I was younger and was raised Catholic, so it's not out of the realm of possibility).

I, however, do not see such a change on the horizon and I felt like that was eventually going to be a problem for us. In the end, we had two major obstacles between us: Her diseases and her faith. Could we have worked past them? Maybe.

Even now, I'm not sure I ever could have knowingly slept with someone who had herpes and, to a lesser extent, HPV (condoms appear to be fairly good at preventing the spread of HPV).

However, even assuming I could have gotten over that, I think the religion thing might have been a problem much farther down the line when we had a lot more invested in each other.

This morning was ****ing horrible. She cried, and I don't mind saying so did I. She's a great girl and great girls seem to be few and far between for me lately.

For some reason, my streak of not having a girlfriend for more than three months lives on. It really does make me wonder if I should commit to permanent bachelorhood.

Anyway, I wanted to thank you all for entertaining me and giving me some solid advice. I think it was Jones whose words hit the nail on the head for me, but he certainly wasn't the only one who gave good advice.

She feels horrible and I feel worse. But I can't imagine how much harder it would have been six months or years from now, especially if I then had an STD or two in tow. Hopefully, this feeling will pass faster than it did with my last GF.

 

[zagoshe]

Not that anyone gives a rat's ass about me, but I think venting might help me out here.

After an agonizing couple of weeks, I broke it off today. She knew I had been trying to decide what to do about the situation and this morning she asked if I had given "us" anymore thought.

Here's what it came down to. I really liked this girl and she was the first one I've been excited to be with since my last ex. I was content to see where our relationship was going to go, but the STDs forced me to think much more seriously about where we were going much faster than I had expected.

In the end, I decided I didn't think things were going to work out. A statement she made one night when we had been drinking really stuck with me. She, being a religious person as I mentioned earlier in the thread, slipped up and said she didn't think she could be with a guy who wasn't religious.

We discussed it the next day and then "tabled" the topic for further discussion after we got to know each other better. Upon much reflection, I knew she was very serious about that thought. I also know that she likely believed I could change and might become more religious (I was an altar boy when I was younger and was raised Catholic, so it's not out of the realm of possibility).

I, however, do not see such a change on the horizon and I felt like that was eventually going to be a problem for us. In the end, we had two major obstacles between us: Her diseases and her faith. Could we have worked past them? Maybe.

Even now, I'm not sure I ever could have knowingly slept with someone who had herpes and, to a lesser extent, HPV (condoms appear to be fairly good at preventing the spread of HPV).

However, even assuming I could have gotten over that, I think the religion thing might have been a problem much farther down the line when we had a lot more invested in each other.

This morning was ****ing horrible. She cried, and I don't mind saying so did I. She's a great girl and great girls seem to be few and far between for me lately.

For some reason, my streak of not having a girlfriend for more than three months lives on. It really does make me wonder if I should commit to permanent bachelorhood.

Anyway, I wanted to thank you all for entertaining me and giving me some solid advice. I think it was Jones whose words hit the nail on the head for me, but he certainly wasn't the only one who gave good advice.

She feels horrible and I feel worse. But I can't imagine how much harder it would have been six months or years from now, especially if I then had an STD or two in tow. Hopefully, this feeling will pass faster than it did with my last GF.

The best thing you did is this -- you didn't ignore the red flags that so many people do in order to try and make something work that they know is wrong or is going to end up bad.

You got out of it relatively painless and while it will hurt for a little you'll look back sooner than later and think "whew, I'm damn glad I didn't make that mistake..."

So relax, keep your head up and get back to chasing the patch every night!! ;D

 

[melock]

Not that anyone gives a rat's ass about me, but I think venting might help me out here.

After an agonizing couple of weeks, I broke it off today. She knew I had been trying to decide what to do about the situation and this morning she asked if I had given "us" anymore thought.

Here's what it came down to. I really liked this girl and she was the first one I've been excited to be with since my last ex. I was content to see where our relationship was going to go, but the STDs forced me to think much more seriously about where we were going much faster than I had expected.

In the end, I decided I didn't think things were going to work out. A statement she made one night when we had been drinking really stuck with me. She, being a religious person as I mentioned earlier in the thread, slipped up and said she didn't think she could be with a guy who wasn't religious.

We discussed it the next day and then "tabled" the topic for further discussion after we got to know each other better. Upon much reflection, I knew she was very serious about that thought. I also know that she likely believed I could change and might become more religious (I was an altar boy when I was younger and was raised Catholic, so it's not out of the realm of possibility).

I, however, do not see such a change on the horizon and I felt like that was eventually going to be a problem for us. In the end, we had two major obstacles between us: Her diseases and her faith. Could we have worked past them? Maybe.

Even now, I'm not sure I ever could have knowingly slept with someone who had herpes and, to a lesser extent, HPV (condoms appear to be fairly good at preventing the spread of HPV).

However, even assuming I could have gotten over that, I think the religion thing might have been a problem much farther down the line when we had a lot more invested in each other.

This morning was ****ing horrible. She cried, and I don't mind saying so did I. She's a great girl and great girls seem to be few and far between for me lately.

For some reason, my streak of not having a girlfriend for more than three months lives on. It really does make me wonder if I should commit to permanent bachelorhood.

Anyway, I wanted to thank you all for entertaining me and giving me some solid advice. I think it was Jones whose words hit the nail on the head for me, but he certainly wasn't the only one who gave good advice.

She feels horrible and I feel worse. But I can't imagine how much harder it would have been six months or years from now, especially if I then had an STD or two in tow. Hopefully, this feeling will pass faster than it did with my last GF.

The best thing you did is this -- you didn't ignore the red flags that so many people do in order to try and make something work that they know is wrong or is going to end up bad.

You got out of it relatively painless and while it will hurt for a little you'll look back sooner than later and think "whew, I'm damn glad I didn't make that mistake..."

So relax, keep your head up and get back to chasing the patch every night!! ;D

Well said by the Hulk. I agree 100 percent. Good job on taking the situation for what it was at face-value and not ignoring those "problems" because you liked her as a person. I'm sure she's a great girl, but those were some heavy things that went with her whether it was by her choice (religion preferrence) or not (STDs).

You'll be fine. Strippers help in the short term and in the long term.....you get used to talking to hot girls and it won't be such a big deal for you to approach one at a bar, mall, shopping market, ect. Unfortunately they won't only be wearing 9-inch heals, a bikini top and a thong. Sad, but true.

 

[Jones]

SportsJournalists.com, be proud tonight. You helped prevent your fellow man from being able to light incense, camp stoves, and mood candles with his pecker.

That's great work, everybody.

Now let's go out there and make a fat person skinny.