Dating sites

[Write-brained]

10 years ago in Net years is like 50 years ago in real years.

Yeah, it was before all this fancy schmancy stuff you kids got now like Myspace and YouTube.

 

[PhilaYank36]

Ouch, W_B. That's rough. I've signed up to match.com now and sent out a few e-mails like suggested above. I did the sensable thing and didn't include any bull**** in my profile & added a bunch of pictures, none of them vanity shots. I think my one flaw is that I'm a tad on the impatient side when it comes to trying to meet up. I'm not one of those people that calls/IMs/e-mails twice a day, every day, but I am very dogged in my pursuit. Tips on how to avoid scaring the ladies off?

 

[sportschick]

Ouch, W_B. That's rough. I've signed up to match.com now and sent out a few e-mails like suggested above. I did the sensable thing and didn't include any bull**** in my profile & added a bunch of pictures, none of them vanity shots. I think my one flaw is that I'm a tad on the impatient side when it comes to trying to meet up. I'm not one of those people that calls/IMs/e-mails twice a day, every day, but I am very dogged in my pursuit. Tips on how to avoid scaring the ladies off?

Hold off telling them about your love of comic books.

Don't discuss politics, religion or exes.

Don't mention your mother until at least the third date.

 

[Write-brained]

Ouch, W_B. That's rough. I've signed up to match.com now and sent out a few e-mails like suggested above. I did the sensable thing and didn't include any bull**** in my profile & added a bunch of pictures, none of them vanity shots. I think my one flaw is that I'm a tad on the impatient side when it comes to trying to meet up. I'm not one of those people that calls/IMs/e-mails twice a day, every day, but I am very dogged in my pursuit. Tips on how to avoid scaring the ladies off?

Do these sites actually find women in your area? What if you live in a rural area?

Just curious.

 

[sportschick]

They do. You're choices are just very, very, very limited in rural areas. Given where Phila is, he should have a pretty wide range of choices though . . .

 

[D-3 Fan]

The free/extremely cheap sites tend to suck. Cough up the dough for Match or Yahoo Personals for a month or two.

I've used Yahoo for a long time. I decided to cough up the dough and go premium for three months. I got no hits, even with a picture for them to see.

Check that, I got no quality hits. It was women over 30 with 3 kids in tow, tats on their breasts and looking for a "real man" to settle down with. Talk about the pick of the litter in Iowa. If it's not upscale bar skanks or chicks who think wearing a tube top three sizes too small is sexy, the dating world here in Iowa, to me, isn't very promising.

Outside of that, when it comes to the dating world, I've never ventured into it and I have no clue how to react, handle, and manage dating (never dated in high school, college, or post-college up to now). Another factor to it is my fear of being intimate. After seeing my parents divorce as a teen, to see them remarry and redivorce again and again, I remain a hopeful person, but the disillusionment and fear of not succeeding in a relationship looms large. For most men, it's pretty stupid to overanalyze, but if you are someone (man or woman) who isn't dating or finding a mate for marriage by the time you hit your 30's, you start to think that something is seriously wrong with you.

 

[melock]

Ouch, W_B. That's rough. I've signed up to match.com now and sent out a few e-mails like suggested above. I did the sensable thing and didn't include any bull**** in my profile & added a bunch of pictures, none of them vanity shots. I think my one flaw is that I'm a tad on the impatient side when it comes to trying to meet up. I'm not one of those people that calls/IMs/e-mails twice a day, every day, but I am very dogged in my pursuit. Tips on how to avoid scaring the ladies off?

Whatever you do, wait to do these things for a while because you'll get accused of trying to get them in a relationship:

1. Get them flowers.
2. Give them compliments.
3. Ask them about what they like.
4. Hold their hand only after they grab yours first.
5. Hold them after they basically sit on top of you.
6. Kiss them only after they kiss you first.

Hopefully you can see how all of that would be misconstrued by the ladies because I'm still trying to figure it out.

 

[melock]

Some people think dating off the internet is weird. Me? I could care less. I say we live in the technology age so why the hell not. I guess it all matters if you care what peope think of you. My only advice is to be up front with what you want. That way you'll be protected against the bull**** that no doubt will come your way at some point in time.

 

[D-3 Fan]

Ouch, W_B. That's rough. I've signed up to match.com now and sent out a few e-mails like suggested above. I did the sensable thing and didn't include any bull**** in my profile & added a bunch of pictures, none of them vanity shots. I think my one flaw is that I'm a tad on the impatient side when it comes to trying to meet up. I'm not one of those people that calls/IMs/e-mails twice a day, every day, but I am very dogged in my pursuit. Tips on how to avoid scaring the ladies off?

Whatever you do, wait to do these things for a while because you'll get accused of trying to get them in a relationship:

1. Get them flowers.
2. Give them compliments.
3. Ask them about what they like.
4. Hold their hand only after they grab yours first.
5. Hold them after they basically sit on top of you.
6. Kiss them only after they kiss you first.

Hopefully you can see how all of that would be misconstrued by the ladies because I'm still trying to figure it out.

melock, what if it's the other way around, with the lady pursuing it? I ask this because several of my friends have had that happened to them many times. It's amazing that they didn't bang them right away.

 

[sportschick]

A guy not making some attempt to make physical contact with me by the third date gets kicked to the curb, melock. All that really depends on the girl, and if you don't ask me about what I like on teh first date, well, **** you. You're obviously not interested in me.

 

[Write-brained]

If you're in BFE, you're going to struggle finding anybody. Online, offline, doesn't matter what you do.

See, that's where I can sympathize with many of the single guys on this board (not you girls, you're being offered **** every day ;D) because so many of the young reporters live in BFE. I had the most trouble finding women when I was in BFE ... not even hot women, but young, single women who didn't have a wedding ring or more children then teeth.

For awhile I even went out with a 35-year-old divorced Hispanic Spanish teacher whose son was nearly my age ... more out of convenience for both of us than anything ... good times, good times.

 

[melock]

A guy not making some attempt to make physical contact with me by the third date gets kicked to the curb, melock. All that really depends on the girl, and if you don't ask me about what I like on teh first date, well, **** you. You're obviously not interested in me.

Damn me and my forgeting how to use the blue type. That was all sarcasim SC. My fault for not making that clearer.

 

[sportschick]

A guy not making some attempt to make physical contact with me by the third date gets kicked to the curb, melock. All that really depends on the girl, and if you don't ask me about what I like on teh first date, well, **** you. You're obviously not interested in me.

That might be the norm, but I assure you melock knows of what he speaks. Poor ******* has run into crazy, crazy women.

Maybe he should start having them screened by a psychiatrist first :D

 

[sportschick]

A guy not making some attempt to make physical contact with me by the third date gets kicked to the curb, melock. All that really depends on the girl, and if you don't ask me about what I like on teh first date, well, **** you. You're obviously not interested in me.

Damn me and my forgeting how to use the blue type. That was all sarcasim SC. My fault for not making that clearer.

I don't read sarcasm well, dammit!!!!!

 

[melock]

A guy not making some attempt to make physical contact with me by the third date gets kicked to the curb, melock. All that really depends on the girl, and if you don't ask me about what I like on the first date, well, **** you. You're obviously not interested in me.

That might be the norm, but I assure you melock knows of what he speaks. Poor ******* has run into crazy, crazy women.

Like I was their chauffeur to Psycho Lane.

 

[melock]

A guy not making some attempt to make physical contact with me by the third date gets kicked to the curb, melock. All that really depends on the girl, and if you don't ask me about what I like on teh first date, well, **** you. You're obviously not interested in me.

That might be the norm, but I assure you melock knows of what he speaks. Poor ******* has run into crazy, crazy women.

Maybe he should start having them screened by a psychiatrist first :D

I'm seriously thinking about employing one.

 

[melock]

Ouch, W_B. That's rough. I've signed up to match.com now and sent out a few e-mails like suggested above. I did the sensable thing and didn't include any bull**** in my profile & added a bunch of pictures, none of them vanity shots. I think my one flaw is that I'm a tad on the impatient side when it comes to trying to meet up. I'm not one of those people that calls/IMs/e-mails twice a day, every day, but I am very dogged in my pursuit. Tips on how to avoid scaring the ladies off?

Whatever you do, wait to do these things for a while because you'll get accused of trying to get them in a relationship:

1. Get them flowers.
2. Give them compliments.
3. Ask them about what they like.
4. Hold their hand only after they grab yours first.
5. Hold them after they basically sit on top of you.
6. Kiss them only after they kiss you first.

Hopefully you can see how all of that would be misconstrued by the ladies because I'm still trying to figure it out.

melock, what if it's the other way around, with the lady pursuing it? I ask this because several of my friends have had that happened to them many times. It's amazing that they didn't bang them right away.

If I knew the answer to that I'd be sleeping on a large pile of money with many beautiful ladies.

 

[PhilaYank36]

If you're in BFE, you're going to struggle finding anybody. Online, offline, doesn't matter what you do.

See, that's where I can sympathize with many of the single guys on this board (not you girls, you're being offered **** every day ;D) because so many of the young reporters live in BFE. I had the most trouble finding women when I was in BFE ... not even hot women, but young, single women who didn't have a wedding ring or more children then teeth.

For awhile I even went out with a 35-year-old divorced Hispanic Spanish teacher whose son was nearly my age ... more out of convenience for both of us than anything ... good times, good times.

****, I'm glad I live right in the middle of Sopranoland.

 

[D-3 Fan]

A guy not making some attempt to make physical contact with me by the third date gets kicked to the curb, melock. All that really depends on the girl, and if you don't ask me about what I like on teh first date, well, **** you. You're obviously not interested in me.

That's what some guys will run into problems with. If they pick up on things you like or don't like, but are unsure whether to make the move on the third date, they're screwed.

Men like to have physical contact and the like on the very initial meeting. That's maybe why I scared of dating. I can commit to someone, but the dating game is cutthroat, disappointing, and misguided.

 

[melock]

Living in the middle of nowhere doesn't give you the option of being selective. You take whatever you can get. I dated a girl with three kids who was the warden of Psychoville. It was like dating the Hulk although she didn't turn green or bash through walls, but it was just as scary when she got mad.