RIP Tyler Hilinski

[BitterYoungMatador2]

Washington State QB. Apparent suicide.

Police: WSU QB Hilinski dies in apparent suicide

 

[murphyc]

Saw this a few minutes ago. I'm absolutely crushed. The next great WAZZU QB, reminded me a lot of Drew Bledsoe.
RIP Tyler

 

[Slacker]

Holy ****. ... C'mon, kids. Don't kill yourself in high school or college. Life gets better after that.

 

[Spartan Squad]

Man I can't imagine how bad be saw his life to go through with that given what he had and what he could have.

 

[Deskgrunt50]

So incredibly sad. Whole life ahead of him.

 

[typefitter]

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255.

Never be afraid to ask for help.

 

[BitterYoungMatador2]

Next week will mark the two-year anniversary of a friend of mine blowing his brains out in the exact same manner. We all saw warning signs but never thought it was THAT serious, plus we didn't think he'd ever leave behind his three kids that he adored -- especially his two boys. He said he could never leave them. But he did.

Reach out if you're suffering from this. And reach out to your friends who you know are going through some ****. This friend lived two blocks from me and I have to pass his house on my way to the grocery store. Every time I see that stupid-ass three-bedroom ranch I wish I'd been there more.

 

[HanSenSE]

Every time I read about one of these, they get harder and harder to understand.

 

[Moderator1]

Scholarship-level softball player outside Richmond - yeah, hard to understand

Medical examiner: Amelia teen found shot Saturday died from self-inflicted gunshot wound

 

[Steak Snabler]

When someone that young commits suicide, I think the default assumption is a romantic relationship gone bad. At that age, you're often too immature to realize that life goes on and you will get over it.

 

[typefitter]

Every time I read about one of these, they get harder and harder to understand.

I don't say this glibly: Try being depressed. There is a segment of the population for whom these things are all too understandable. No less tragic for it.

 

[Big Circus]

Does Leach come under any scrutiny for this? He has a history of not dealing with head injuries properly.

 

[tapintoamerica]

Does Leach come under any scrutiny for this? He has a history of not dealing with head injuries properly.

I'm not being callous when I say the issue may be whether bullet was to the brain. Availability of forensic answers may depend on this.
But it is an important question. Perhaps the suicide note will reveal info.

Depression is a great mystery.

 

[tapintoamerica]

Next week will mark the two-year anniversary of a friend of mine blowing his brains out in the exact same manner. We all saw warning signs but never thought it was THAT serious, plus we didn't think he'd ever leave behind his three kids that he adored -- especially his two boys. He said he could never leave them. But he did.

Reach out if you're suffering from this. And reach out to your friends who you know are going through some ****. This friend lived two blocks from me and I have to pass his house on my way to the grocery store. Every time I see that stupid-ass three-bedroom ranch I wish I'd been there more.

Lots of things look like warning signs in hindsight. Doesn't equate to negligence, however. Particularly if, even in low moments, the friend made a convincing argument that he would never do this.

 

[LongTimeListener]

Man I can't imagine how bad be saw his life to go through with that given what he had and what he could have.

I don't say this glibly: Try being depressed. There is a segment of the population for whom these things are all too understandable. No less tragic for it.

I read "The Teenage Brain" a couple of months ago. It's #1 on my must-read list for anyone who has or will have or is interested at all in adolescents. It was written by a Harvard neurologist, and it goes through the brain's life cycle in purely physical terms. The takeaway: We as parents, and often the kids themselves, have shockingly little control over what's happening in there. The brain simply isn't ready to make rational decisions.

(tl;dr Don't yell. They won't take your message and all you'll do is feed the dangerous impulses.)

It scared the daylights out of me and it will until my youngest child, who is 5 now, is in his mid-20s at least.

Regarding concussions, love gone bad or anything else, I'm not dismissing those as possible factors, but there could have been a million things going on. Sleep patterns could have contributed. Marijuana use could have contributed. (Read that chapter and you'll be a YankeeFan convert -- pot is really, really bad at that age.) Hell, he could have been pissed about a grade, and the impulses got ahead of the reasoning as is normal at that age, and he does something that can't be undone.

It's a frightening time. I never felt it when I was that young, I know others did, but it's one area where we're starting to know how much we don't know.

 

[Dick Whitman]

Is this a strange take? Or a brave one?

Kragthorpe: A college quarterback dies, and my first thought is ... who will replace him? That’s just wrong

 

[Double Down]

Is this a strange take? Or a brave one?

Kragthorpe: A college quarterback dies, and my first thought is ... who will replace him? That’s just wrong

I don't know that it's either. It could have been more artfully written or framed, but the general sentiment is good and non-controversial. I think it only scratches the surface of the point he wanted to make, which is sports makes us really callous and unfeeling about those involved.

 

[Dick Whitman]

I don't know that it's either. It could have been more artfully written or framed, but the general sentiment is good and non-controversial. I think it only scratches the surface of the point he wanted to make, which is sports makes us really callous and unfeeling about those involved.

His reaction is a bit unsettling, although that's the point. With some remove now, I couldn't imagine having his reaction. But I guess I can understand it when you are deeply involved in the nuts and bolts of a league the way I assume he is. Or maybe it's because it's Washington State. Maybe if it's Michigan State, I would react similarly. I don't think so, but maybe.

 

[User 149557]

I remember just after hearing of Jose Fernandez's death the thought streaking through my head "Oh, that's going to sink that franchise" and having to scold myself for even having the thought.

 

[User 11148]

... he does something that can't be undone.

I don't know if I've mentioned this around here, but early in our marriage MommaQuant and I socialized a good bit with a former co-worker of hers (we'll call him "Tex") and his wife ("Sandy"). Tex was Sandy's second husband; she and Tex had been in a relationship, he'd broken it off, and in a rebound-whirlwind she married some other guy. It didn't last long, and after the divorce she and Tex got back together and eventually married and had a daughter.

One day not long after we'd moved into a neighborhood just down the road, and not long after Tex and Sandy had learned she was pregnant with a second child, Sandy committed suicide. She'd been embezzling money -- she was a small-time bookkeeper/accountant and had had bouts of spending craziness in her past -- and was about to be caught.

As the months passed after her death both MommaQuant and I hard a hard, hard time not being haunted by a tale Sandy had told on herself. She always laughed about walking down the aisle, when she was marrying her first husband, and thinking to herself, "This is the stupidest thing I could possibly be doing ... but I'll be damned if I'm backing out now." Neither MommaQuant nor I could shake the thoughts of her thinking the same thoughts while arranging her death.