"Why We Cheat"

[nmmetsfan]

Scruffy up top. Clean shaven below.

It's not rocket science.

This post brought some not-so-welcome images to my head

 

[YankeeFan]

but I just saw a facebook post from a buddy of mine that pretty much read, "Great f&*&^^&^ birthday present I just got . . . found out wife's been cheating on me since January."

I don't get this. Why do people want to make stuff like this public?

 

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How would you like to be the poor schmuck who had to fact-check this item?

She found an e-mail from her husband to a French Vietnamese woman, the Temptress. It was in French and it said:

I cannot believe I came 23 times in one day. I will never have prostate cancer.

And can I also ask.....is that even possible?

 

[Mizzougrad96]

MAXIM with better writing.

Hey, Maxim was the best freelance gig I ever had!

And no, I'm not joking.

 

[YankeeFan]

How would you like to be the poor schmuck who had to fact-check this item?

She found an e-mail from her husband to a French Vietnamese woman, the Temptress. It was in French and it said:

I cannot believe I came 23 times in one day. I will never have prostate cancer.

And can I also ask.....is that even possible?

Even if he had doubled the number of times he came, and added 7, I'd be impressed with the output.

23 times? For a guy? No ****ing way.

 

[Boom_70]

How would you like to be the poor schmuck who had to fact-check this item?

She found an e-mail from her husband to a French Vietnamese woman, the Temptress. It was in French and it said:

I cannot believe I came 23 times in one day. I will never have prostate cancer.

And can I also ask.....is that even possible?

If you can stay off your cell phone long enough ..... YES

 

[Pilot]

How would you like to be the poor schmuck who had to fact-check this item?

She found an e-mail from her husband to a French Vietnamese woman, the Temptress. It was in French and it said:

I cannot believe I came 23 times in one day. I will never have prostate cancer.

And can I also ask.....is that even possible?

Google Translate should take care of it in a few seconds.

Oh ... that's not what you meant.

 

[proudpittsburgher]

I swear, I would almost rather be offed by my wife than find out she was cheating on me. Living with that has to be tough. And as an earlier poster put, yes, both parties are equally at fault if he/she knew the other person was married. What the **** is wrong with people? If you aren't happy in your marriage, then get out, then move on.

I would never, ever, ever hit a woman, but I came way too uncomfortably close to doing so when I found out my ex was cheating. I don't have much of a temper, but I was so angry I was shaking. I went on a long drive by myself that day, just to make sure I didn't do something I'd regret later.

My wife and I have had conversations about that subject before. I let it be known my views on it, pretty much what I said here. I just don't think I could ever forgive something like that. I love my wife and we have three kids so leaving would be so, so hard . . . but I think I would be left with no choice in the matter. I just don't know, personally, how you could ever forgive a spouse who does that. Like I said, I just think it's the worst thing a spouse could ever do . . . ruin the trust built in a marriage. For me, trust is just a known, a given, a pillar I can know is always going to be there. Once that is brought into question, the whole marriage would fall apart. And before anyone jumps on me for this, this is just in my case. There are no right or wrong answers in this situation.

 

[cranberry]

How would you like to be the poor schmuck who had to fact-check this item?

She found an e-mail from her husband to a French Vietnamese woman, the Temptress. It was in French and it said:

I cannot believe I came 23 times in one day. I will never have prostate cancer.

And can I also ask.....is that even possible?

Even if he had doubled the number of times he came, and added 7, I'd be impressed with the output.

23 times? For a guy? No ****ing way.

"Mais 15 ou 16 n'est pas déraisonnable."

 

[User 11148]

I just think it's the worst thing a spouse could ever do . . . ruin the trust built in a marriage.

I don't think it's the worst thing a spouse could ever do. Hurting the children would be way, way worse. But it'd be pretty bad. I could forgive, I think, especially if there were kids around. On the other hand, it'd take years to get past it. "Now where were you? The Kroger? Riiiiiight."

 

[dooley_womack1]

Scruffy up top. Clean shaven below.

It's not rocket science.

No mode of hair removal is ever gettin' down there, and I bet most guys would say the same

 

[The Big Ragu]

"Mais 15 ou 16 n'est pas déraisonnable."

In his defense, he didn't know the 16 women he had sex with that day were hookers paid for by the lobbyists trying to buy his support. He thought they were just a bunch of 20-something-year old women who all happened to want to have sex with him in the same day. He is the great seducer, after all.

 

[User 11148]

I just think it's the worst thing a spouse could ever do . . . ruin the trust built in a marriage.

I don't think it's the worst thing a spouse could ever do. Hurting the children would be way, way worse. But it'd be pretty bad. I could forgive, I think, especially if there were kids around. On the other hand, it'd take years to get past it. "Now where were you? The Kroger? Riiiiiight."

But cheating on your spouse IS hurting your children, too. They're now in a broken home.

I meant physical/emotional/sexual abuse, but I agree with you.

 

[Dick Whitman]

I swear, I would almost rather be offed by my wife than find out she was cheating on me. Living with that has to be tough. And as an earlier poster put, yes, both parties are equally at fault if he/she knew the other person was married. What the **** is wrong with people? If you aren't happy in your marriage, then get out, then move on.

I would never, ever, ever hit a woman, but I came way too uncomfortably close to doing so when I found out my ex was cheating. I don't have much of a temper, but I was so angry I was shaking. I went on a long drive by myself that day, just to make sure I didn't do something I'd regret later.

My wife and I have had conversations about that subject before. I let it be known my views on it, pretty much what I said here. I just don't think I could ever forgive something like that. I love my wife and we have three kids so leaving would be so, so hard . . . but I think I would be left with no choice in the matter. I just don't know, personally, how you could ever forgive a spouse who does that. Like I said, I just think it's the worst thing a spouse could ever do . . . ruin the trust built in a marriage. For me, trust is just a known, a given, a pillar I can know is always going to be there. Once that is brought into question, the whole marriage would fall apart. And before anyone jumps on me for this, this is just in my case. There are no right or wrong answers in this situation.

This is probably going to sound a little weird, but besides just the betrayal aspect and dealing with the idea of your spouse in someone else's bed and sharing emotions with someone else, the time commitment required for a covert affair would just **** me off to no end. I would think, "You mean I'm running around like a chicken with my head cut off, vacuuming, walking the dogs, changing diapers, setting the DVR, grilling the chicken, balancing the checkbook because I'm thinking we're in this together ... and you have time for THIS?"

I know that's weird, but I also know that would be part of my irritation. Knock on wood, I'm pretty sure I'll never have to deal with it.

 

[Boom_70]

Here's a good example of when it goes bad in today's NYP. Article mentions that the guy was valedictorian of his class at BYU.

http://www.nypost.com/p/news/local/manhattan/mistress_busts_bigwig_sdZpnqcSYX941LtWQt224H

 

[User 11148]

This is probably going to sound a little weird, but besides just the betrayal aspect and dealing with the idea of your spouse in someone else's bed and sharing emotions with someone else, the time commitment required for a covert affair would just **** me off to no end. I would think, "You mean I'm running around like a chicken with my head cut off, vacuuming, walking the dogs, changing diapers, setting the DVR, grilling the chicken, balancing the checkbook because I'm thinking we're in this together ... and you have time for THIS?"

I know that's weird, but I also know that would be part of my irritation. Knock on wood, I'm pretty sure I'll never have to deal with it.

I don't think that's weird at all. I was talking with a friend of mine the other day who's nearly the same age as me (I'm 49 and he's 52), and we both were laughing about all this **** you have to simply let go on an ongoing basis if you're committed to making a marriage work. I can honestly say that if my wife had an affair, lots (not all, certainly, and likely not even most, but a significant portion) of my anger would rest on the knowledge that I was putting up with all of this or that stuff while she was out escaping from it!

 

[proudpittsburgher]

This is probably going to sound a little weird, but besides just the betrayal aspect and dealing with the idea of your spouse in someone else's bed and sharing emotions with someone else, the time commitment required for a covert affair would just **** me off to no end. I would think, "You mean I'm running around like a chicken with my head cut off, vacuuming, walking the dogs, changing diapers, setting the DVR, grilling the chicken, balancing the checkbook because I'm thinking we're in this together ... and you have time for THIS?"

I know that's weird, but I also know that would be part of my irritation. Knock on wood, I'm pretty sure I'll never have to deal with it.

I don't think that's weird at all. I was talking with a friend of mine the other day who's nearly the same age as me (I'm 49 and he's 52), and we both were laughing about all this **** you have to simply let go on an ongoing basis if you're committed to making a marriage work. I can honestly say that if my wife had an affair, lots (not all, certainly, and likely not even most, but a significant portion) of my anger would rest on the knowledge that I was putting up with all of this or that stuff while she was out escaping from it!

Yea, that's all part of it for me, too. That's what I mean about not being able to ever forget what they did. Because it is so many things to be angry about.

 

[joe]

I have the EP but can't find the lyrics online. The Starkweathers -- not the Croatian band Starkweather -- put out a 5-song EP in the mid 1990s, and it contained a song called "One for Her, One for Him." It's about a guy finding his wife sleeping with his brother. He shotguns them both and has no regrets. "I'd do it agaaaain."

That's all I got on this subject.

 

[YankeeFan]

This is probably going to sound a little weird, but besides just the betrayal aspect and dealing with the idea of your spouse in someone else's bed and sharing emotions with someone else, the time commitment required for a covert affair would just **** me off to no end. I would think, "You mean I'm running around like a chicken with my head cut off, vacuuming, walking the dogs, changing diapers, setting the DVR, grilling the chicken, balancing the checkbook because I'm thinking we're in this together ... and you have time for THIS?"

I know that's weird, but I also know that would be part of my irritation. Knock on wood, I'm pretty sure I'll never have to deal with it.

I don't think that's weird at all. I was talking with a friend of mine the other day who's nearly the same age as me (I'm 49 and he's 52), and we both were laughing about all this **** you have to simply let go on an ongoing basis if you're committed to making a marriage work. I can honestly say that if my wife had an affair, lots (not all, certainly, and likely not even most, but a significant portion) of my anger would rest on the knowledge that I was putting up with all of this or that stuff while she was out escaping from it!

Yea, that's all part of it for me, too. That's what I mean about not being able to ever forget what they did. Because it is so many things to be angry about.

I totally agree with this too.

So much lying goes into having an affair.

 

[YankeeFan]

No mode of hair removal is ever gettin' down there, and I bet most guys would say the same

Really? I'll bet you've been married for a long time.

I used to think the same way, but it's pretty much a requirement if you want to sleep with anyone younger than 30.