I'm the one who started the thread linked earlier in this thread.
I wish I could feel empathy/sympathy for someone who was pulled over with a .08 BAC, but after the pain my family has endured these last six months, I can't. It's called responsibility. If you know you're going to drive, DON'T F'N DRINK! It's as simple as that.
I'm not going to sit here and preach like I'm some angel. I'm not. There were a couple times, more than 20 years ago, when I drove when I shouldn't. Thank goodness nothing happened, and thank goodness I figured it out. But I still feel violently ill when I think of what an idiot I was.
It never ceases to amaze me - in a sad, sorry way - when I sit in court for work, waiting for a hearing. There's always a few DWI cases, which usually go like this:
Judge: How much alcohol did you drink and what kind?
Defendant: About two or three beers/mixed drinks.
Prosecutor: Your Honor, the test results were .21 (or some variation thereof, but rarely lower than .16)
The BAC is not going to be that high on two or three beers. Almost always, there's some sort of plea agreement.
For me, those court days are now hell because I feel like I'm reliving that day over again. I want to stand up and scream "Don't you get it? You could have KILLED someone because you were too selfish to find an alternative way to get to where you were going!"
It's changing a bit. Like I mentioned on the other thread, officers I spoke with for a story said that in our area, DWI arrests are down to almost nothing on New Year's Eve. It's the other holidays where people still don't seem to get it. (In fact, the jail report for my county had just one DWI arrest this New Year's Eve.)
As far as blaming those who produce the liquor or sold the liquor, no. That has never even once crossed my mind. They didn't pour it down the driver's throat before he killed my relative. He, even though he'd been convicted on a misdemeanor DWI previously, made the choice to drink and drive. It's all on him.
I know I'm rambling, and I apologize, but this is such a sore subject with me right now. I could probably write a book on what I think SHOULD be done, but until we as a society agree not a drop behind the wheel is the only acceptable solution, we'll be arguing this for a very long time.