The Internet dating world is a cesspool

[TigerVols]

Ashley Madison?

Creosote's not married anymore, so he's not eligible.

Oh. What's the contract look like, Dools?

If YGBFKM forgets to log out from it, maybe you'll know.

 

[TigerVols]

Oddly enough, I'm much better-looking in NYC than I am in LA.

Except on JDate.

 

[ColdCat]

The whole things a cesspool. everyone around me is either divorced with three kids and lives in a trailer or 19 years old and a complete dumbass. I almost wish I lived in a society with arrainged marriage at this point.

 

[NickMordo]

Dating is a *****, hang in there.

I always bypassed the online route and got skanks drunk at bars.

The college route always works it seems.

 

[Dick Whitman]

The New Yorker had a story about Internet dating sites a few months ago. At some point, it had something like this line, "Dating sites are now the third-most common way people meet. First is through friends, and second is at churches, bars, or work."

Something like that where it was like, "Um, where the hell else would people meet?"

Never had to go the Internet route, thank goodness. Met the little lady in college. From the young people I meet now, it seems almost like the only way to go. Almost as if dating your real-life acquaintances is incestuous to them. I think they like to really compartmentalize their social lives. Dating is in one box, clearly marked, "dating." Professional and social relationships are in another, also clearly delineated. No confusion, then, about that guy in the next cubicle over.

 

[SalukiNC]

That's true. I'm just glad I came out STD free. I listen to Love Line, there's some scary stuff out there!

 

[NickMordo]

The New Yorker had a story about Internet dating sites a few months ago. At some point, it had something like this line, "Dating sites are now the third-most common way people meet. First is through friends, and second is at churches, bars, or work."

Something like that where it was like, "Um, where the hell else would people meet?"

Never had to go the Internet route, thank goodness. Met the little lady in college. From the young people I meet now, it seems almost like the only way to go. Almost as if dating your real-life acquaintances is incestuous to them. I think they like to really compartmentalize their social lives. Dating is in one box, clearly marked, "dating." Professional and social relationships are in another, also clearly delineated. No confusion, then, about that guy in the next cubicle over.

I just broke up with my college lady of four years. I'm ****ed, I guess...

 

[sgreenwell]

I've been on OkCupid for about two years - I use it somewhat passively, poking around on it every couple of days. I've had a few relationships off of it, and to echo some other comments, I didn't fight the caliber of people I met that different from the people I had met via conventional dating (friends of friends, college classmates, etc.).

I think the main difference is that the computer algorithm used can sometimes match you somewhat superficially. For example, I like kids, I would like to have kids some day, and I have the journalism / writing / English background. As a result, I match highly with pretty much every teacher in the known universe, it seems.

 

[Quiet Man]

Online dating worked well for a couple of my friends. Both were divorced, almost immediately signed up, and were seeing someone new within a month. One got married and they now have 2 kids and seem pretty happy. The other swears he will never get married again, but is still seeing the first woman that he met online almost 10 years ago. Both encouraged me to try it but I just don’t have any interest. It worked great for them, but my sense is that both of them needed to have someone in their life, and they both went out and found a woman that needed someone in her life.

I’ve never been married, always lived alone, and there are a lot of advantages to that. While I would welcome a meaningful relationship with the right woman, I’m pretty comfortable in my own skin at this point in my life. I feel like the majority of online daters are just looking for someone (in some cases anyone) to fill a void. My aversion to online dating lies in the suspicion that I would end up in a relationship rooted on the fear of being alone, if that makes sense.

Anyway, I just want to find a down to earth girl that lets me go huntin’, fishin’, four-wheelin’ & raisin’ hell. Keystone Light rocks!

 

[apeman33]

Online dating worked well for a couple of my friends. Both were divorced, almost immediately signed up, and were seeing someone new within a month. One got married and they now have 2 kids and seem pretty happy. The other swears he will never get married again, but is still seeing the first woman that he met online almost 10 years ago. Both encouraged me to try it but I just don’t have any interest. It worked great for them, but my sense is that both of them needed to have someone in their life, and they both went out and found a woman that needed someone in her life.

I’ve never been married, always lived alone, and there are a lot of advantages to that. While I would welcome a meaningful relationship with the right woman, I’m pretty comfortable in my own skin at this point in my life. I feel like the majority of online daters are just looking for someone (in some cases anyone) to fill a void. My aversion to online dating lies in the suspicion that I would end up in a relationship rooted on the fear of being alone, if that makes sense.

Anyway, I just want to find a down to earth girl that lets me go huntin’, fishin’, four-wheelin’ & raisin’ hell. Keystone Light rocks!

Outing Alert: Quiet Man is ...

 

[BrianGriffin]

I checked out match.com not long after my divorce. When the first person that came up in my search was my ex-wife, I quickly decided Internet dating was not for me.

Sounds like the sequel to the Pina Colada song.

 

[Suicide Squeezer]

Online dating worked well for a couple of my friends. Both were divorced, almost immediately signed up, and were seeing someone new within a month. One got married and they now have 2 kids and seem pretty happy. The other swears he will never get married again, but is still seeing the first woman that he met online almost 10 years ago. Both encouraged me to try it but I just don’t have any interest. It worked great for them, but my sense is that both of them needed to have someone in their life, and they both went out and found a woman that needed someone in her life.

I’ve never been married, always lived alone, and there are a lot of advantages to that. While I would welcome a meaningful relationship with the right woman, I’m pretty comfortable in my own skin at this point in my life. I feel like the majority of online daters are just looking for someone (in some cases anyone) to fill a void. My aversion to online dating lies in the suspicion that I would end up in a relationship rooted on the fear of being alone, if that makes sense.

Anyway, I just want to find a down to earth girl that lets me go huntin’, fishin’, four-wheelin’ & raisin’ hell. Keystone Light rocks!

Outing Alert: Quiet Man is ...

Always smooth...

 

[Batman]

Mrs. Batman and I met through match.com. That was almost seven years ago, and we've been married for 4 1/2. Total bliss.
Before I met her, I had been on the site off and on for a few years. Had plenty of dates (one every couple months), but only a few that turned into anything significant. It always seemed like I had to do the shotgun approach to even get a reply -- poke through the ads, find five or six that looked interesting, then send out some e-mails and see what happens. If there were no replies within a week or two, then try again.
Mrs. Batman was a lot luckier with it (and not just because she met me ). She signed up and I found her ad and e-mailed her a couple days later. I think I was the first or second reply she got.

 

[NickMordo]

Mrs. Batman and I met through match.com. That was almost seven years ago, and we've been married for 4 1/2. Total bliss.
Before I met her, I had been on the site off and on for a few years. Had plenty of dates (one every couple months), but only a few that turned into anything significant. It always seemed like I had to do the shotgun approach to even get a reply -- poke through the ads, find five or six that looked interesting, then send out some e-mails and see what happens. If there were no replies within a week or two, then try again.
Mrs. Batman was a lot luckier with it (and not just because she met me ). She signed up and I found her ad and e-mailed her a couple days later. I think I was the first or second reply she got.

Doesn't Match cost money? Is it worth it? I looked it up and it said like 30 bones for one month !

 

[Beef03]

My sister met her husband on PoF three or four years ago. I've been on it off and on for a little longer than that but it's been hit and miss, mostly miss. I've tried a few other sites as well. I have a hard time sorting through all the BS. I am also far too picky and I'm not really in a great position to be, but I always have been.

 

[Evil Bastard (aka Chris_L)]

http://i.imgur.com/UPCC0.jpg

 

[outofplace]

The New Yorker had a story about Internet dating sites a few months ago. At some point, it had something like this line, "Dating sites are now the third-most common way people meet. First is through friends, and second is at churches, bars, or work."

Something like that where it was like, "Um, where the hell else would people meet?"

Never had to go the Internet route, thank goodness. Met the little lady in college. From the young people I meet now, it seems almost like the only way to go. Almost as if dating your real-life acquaintances is incestuous to them. I think they like to really compartmentalize their social lives. Dating is in one box, clearly marked, "dating." Professional and social relationships are in another, also clearly delineated. No confusion, then, about that guy in the next cubicle over.

I just broke up with my college lady of four years. I'm ****ed, I guess...

That's the problem. You won't be ****ed. Which could bring you back to Stitch's suggestion.

 

[Cosmo]

Two of my good friends met their wives on eHarmony, and another has been in a relationship with someone for about 15 months with a girl he met on the site. That's why I was willing to give it a shot. It wasn't a bad thing, but it is pricey, and if you're just looking for fun or a date or two, eHarmony really isn't the place. I think most on there are looking for long-term relationships. Really didn't have an interest in trying any of the other sites. Match.com specifically seems a little sketchy, from the people I talk to.

Of course, right when I was in the middle of my three-month membership, I met the love of my life -- offline. Funny how things happen sometimes.

 

[NickMordo]

The New Yorker had a story about Internet dating sites a few months ago. At some point, it had something like this line, "Dating sites are now the third-most common way people meet. First is through friends, and second is at churches, bars, or work."

Something like that where it was like, "Um, where the hell else would people meet?"

Never had to go the Internet route, thank goodness. Met the little lady in college. From the young people I meet now, it seems almost like the only way to go. Almost as if dating your real-life acquaintances is incestuous to them. I think they like to really compartmentalize their social lives. Dating is in one box, clearly marked, "dating." Professional and social relationships are in another, also clearly delineated. No confusion, then, about that guy in the next cubicle over.

I just broke up with my college lady of four years. I'm ****ed, I guess...

That's the problem. You won't be ****ed. Which could bring you back to Stitch's suggestion.

All I want is someone to hold me and tell me that everything is gonna be alright...

 

[terrier]

As someone who is contemplating diving into the match.com dogpile, the "income" question has me breaking out in nightsweats. Either I tell the truth and get no responses (maybe a few laughs), or say "I'll tell you later." Any woman with half a brain (I require a half or more) can see through that dodge.