The Internet dating world is a cesspool

[MisterCreosote]

I mean, seriously. What the ****?

A little background: My cousin convinced me to join Match.com for a little while, just to cast a wide net in my search for the future ex-Mrs. C. She said she had success with it, so I figured, what the hell. That was a few weeks ago.

Fast forward, and the only people who I've had substantial contact with are 1) People I can only assume are Russian hookers, 2) People intent on carrying all of their baggage through their entire lives, 3) Married women, and 4) Just plain liars (and not just about appearance).

Maybe I'm naive, but I didn't think there would be this level of depravity in Internet dating. **** this ****.

Discuss.

 

[FileNotFound]

I checked out match.com not long after my divorce. When the first person that came up in my search was my ex-wife, I quickly decided Internet dating was not for me.

 

[imjustagirl]

I got contacted by a guy two days ago. His profile was weird, to say the least, but like in a charming way. We've exchanged two e-mails. his last was something about how there are 40,000 more women in Atlanta than men, second to NYC, which is a bonus for him.

Uh, yeah, good luck with that.

 

[LongTimeListener]

Things I love about being married:

1) Not having to dance at weddings/get out there for the garter toss.

2) Not having to ever have dealt with the Internet-based dating world.

3) Being married.

 

[Flying Headbutt]

Know what? So is the real world. I've met crazy and dated (not for long, though) them through friends or just random social interactions. I've also met some great girls who totally captured my heart that way. I've met crazy and quickly moved on from women I met online. And I met some great women who totally captured my heart and became involved in outstanding relationships with them, too. In fact, I started having better luck when I used Match. I've been with the same woman for more than a year now and she's now gone to far more ballgames in that time than she had in the several years past, has watched countless more games than she probably ever thought she'd have to with me, and puts up with my crazy-ass hours and work-a-holic tendencies.

That's not to say there aren't others out there who are crazy. But after a conversation or two, either through email or in person, you can figure it out. You can also get a good sense of who you're talking to just by reading what they have to say and moving on from anything that lacks substance.

 

[dieditor]

That's not to say there aren't others out there who are crazy. But after a conversation or two, either through email or in person, you can figure it out. You can also get a good sense of who you're talking to just by reading what they have to say and moving on from anything that lacks substance.

I met my wife on Match, and that was after several run-ins with people who, as you said, I figured out pretty easily. It felt a lot like fishing or selecting a woman out of a catalog at first, but I realized pretty quickly that the more detailed and honest you are in your profile, the quality of people you meet is dramatically improved. Don't let a bad experience or two sour you on the whole idea.

 

[Moderator1]

I checked out match.com not long after my divorce. When the first person that came up in my search was my ex-wife, I quickly decided Internet dating was not for me.

Dude. That's funny as ****. That's also the type of thing that would happen to me if I was ever thrown back into that world.
I understand there's a Senior Match or Senior eHarmony now?
Heck with that. My next wife will be a Wal-Mart Queen.

 

[Mizzougrad96]

A writer friend of mine got married a couple years ago. During the best man toast, he revealed that they met online which was a detail that clearly only a couple people in the room were supposed to know. Both the bride and groom were mortified.

His wife is hot as hell and they have a couple kids now...

 

[Stitch]

I mean, seriously. What the ****?

A little background: My cousin convinced me to join Match.com for a little while, just to cast a wide net in my search for the future ex-Mrs. C. She said she had success with it, so I figured, what the hell. That was a few weeks ago.

Fast forward, and the only people who I've had substantial contact with are 1) People I can only assume are Russian hookers, 2) People intent on carrying all of their baggage through their entire lives, 3) Married women, and 4) Just plain liars (and not just about appearance).

Maybe I'm naive, but I didn't think there would be this level of depravity in Internet dating. **** this ****.

Discuss.

Shouldn't you wait before trying to find the third ex-Mrs. C? Women can smell the bitterness a mile away and might use you as an example on how Internet dating is a cesspool.

 

[Baron Scicluna]

I've had two family members meet their wives on Match.com. Both are in happy marriages.

 

[dreunc1542]

I'm guessing the age difference is part of it, but I have some friends who have had great success through online dating. Most people I know who are single are on one of the sites. I've been on it for a couple months and it can definitely be frustrating. However, I prefer this to trying to pick up women at bars.

 

[Mizzougrad96]

My uncle was on Match within a month of my aunt dying. She had been dying for two years and they were in a marriage of convenience, but eyes still rolled as he was bragging about the women he was meeting. He's in his early 70s.

He was married a year later.

 

[Wenders]

The dating world period is a cesspool. I have told my friends that if I ever do decide to do Internet dating, just shoot me and get it over with. I haven't been on a date in four years and I still can't bring myself to go sign up for a dating site. (I did go and look for guys in my last zip code on plenty of fish. That was terrifying. Mostly because 95 percent of the guys said the same thing. Something about wanting a down to earth girl and they loved huntin', fishin', riding four-wheelers and raising hell. Some even listed their favorite brand of beer.)

But yeah, being a girl, there's something inherently scary about dating someone online. I can see myself going out for coffee and ending up dead in a ditch.

 

[imjustagirl]

(I did go and look for guys in my last zip code on plenty of fish. That was terrifying. Mostly because 95 percent of the guys said the same thing. Something about wanting a down to earth girl and they loved huntin', fishin', riding four-wheelers and raising hell. Some even listed their favorite brand of beer.)

It's not just that zip code.

 

[Mystery Meat II]

The dating world period is a cesspool. I have told my friends that if I ever do decide to do Internet dating, just shoot me and get it over with. I haven't been on a date in four years and I still can't bring myself to go sign up for a dating site. (I did go and look for guys in my last zip code on plenty of fish. That was terrifying. Mostly because 95 percent of the guys said the same thing. Something about wanting a down to earth girl and they loved huntin', fishin', riding four-wheelers and raising hell. Some even listed their favorite brand of beer.)

But yeah, being a girl, there's something inherently scary about dating someone online. I can see myself going out for coffee and ending up dead in a ditch.

I went to plentyoffish, but immediately exited when I realized it was Plenty of Fish, not Plenty Offish, which is more in keeping with my personality.

 

[RickStain]

The dating world period is a cesspool. I have told my friends that if I ever do decide to do Internet dating, just shoot me and get it over with. I haven't been on a date in four years and I still can't bring myself to go sign up for a dating site. (I did go and look for guys in my last zip code on plenty of fish. That was terrifying. Mostly because 95 percent of the guys said the same thing. Something about wanting a down to earth girl and they loved huntin', fishin', riding four-wheelers and raising hell. Some even listed their favorite brand of beer.)

But yeah, being a girl, there's something inherently scary about dating someone online. I can see myself going out for coffee and ending up dead in a ditch.

That had better be some damn good coffee.

 

[dooley_womack1]

He'll, from what I understand, sj has been a match.com for some. And talk about a cesspool...

 

[imjustagirl]

He'll, from what I understand, sj has been a match.com for some. And talk about a cesspool...

I'm the dead in a ditch.

 

[dooley_womack1]

Did you at least have coffee first?

 

[Wenders]

(I did go and look for guys in my last zip code on plenty of fish. That was terrifying. Mostly because 95 percent of the guys said the same thing. Something about wanting a down to earth girl and they loved huntin', fishin', riding four-wheelers and raising hell. Some even listed their favorite brand of beer.)

It's not just that zip code.

Oh, I know. But I went through 20 pages of limited profiles and there was only one that I would have even considered contacting. I know it's not the best dating site out there but it was still amusing and scary all at the same time.