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For the first time, I have been thrust into the role of writing an obituary and will be interviewing the appropriate family member of the deceased tomorrow.

Can anyone provide any practical advice on how to go about this process?

Much appreciated.
 
Tomorrow.

Be respectful. Spell EVERY name and then spell it back. Don't **** up an obit.

Say "died." Don't say "passed away."
 
It's really formulaic, speedway:

Michael Vick, NFL quarterback and lover of pets, died Monday at his home after an extended illness. He was 25.
Vick led the Falcons to two playoff berths in six seasons ...
Vick's mother said he loved football, "...."
....
He is survived by ....
Funeral services will be ....

Look at these if you want to do something a bit different:

http://www.asne.org/index.cfm?ID=5605
By Alana Baranick
The Plain Dealer
Cleveland

Mayfield Heights - Of the many jobs George Kossoff held in his life, none satisfied his soul more than selling orthopedic shoes.

In the 1950s, he fitted customers who hobbled into the Cleveland Orthopedic store with shoes that could help them walk straighter and with less pain. Kossoff, who died June 13 at 92, spent evenings at nursing homes, measuring the feet of clients who couldn't get to the store.

"He was just pleased to be able to be helpful," said Bob Levine, a family friend. "I don't know whether he made any money on it, but he got psychic income. He made people feel good about themselves."

Kossoff had genuine empathy for folks with foot problems. He walked in pain since the 1930s, when he was pinned against the metal gate of an elevator by a pallet of boxes while working as a stockboy.

"He injured his leg," said his wife, Millie. "The doctor said he'd never walk."

Although drab, clunky, specially-fitted shoes could ease his pain, Kossoff preferred to wear colorful Italian-made patent-leather dress shoes.

"At one time, he was a very spiffy dresser," said his daughter, Claire Nash. "He got a little less discriminating about mixing plaids and stripes toward the end, but he did like to look sharp."

Kossoff couldn't wear classy clothes while pumping gas, cleaning car windshields and changing tires at the Rockwell Service Station at East 12th Street and Rockwell Avenue, which he co-owned in the late 1930s.

"He hated that job," Millie said. "It was tough, dirty ... When he came home, the kids were sleeping already. He didn't want to get near anyone until he took a shower."

Working conditions were better in the 1940s, when he owned Komar Sales and Service. He sold car accessories and such varying products as candy bars and new-fangled television sets with 10-inch screens.

"We had a TV set because he sold them in his store," said his daughter, Linda Kemmerer. "People would come in our house and watch TV."

By the early 1950s, he was happily selling shoes. But his seemingly perfect career ended after four years due to a dispute over whether to keep the business open on Saturdays. Kossoff favored staying open, citing the potential for increased sales. His boss staunchly disagreed.

Kossoff went from selling shoes to peddling fish at the Woodland East 55th Street Market. "Only fresh fish," his wife said. "Some of the times, they would still be moving."

He and his wife also ran a concession at Catalano's Supermarket on Mayfield Road, where they sold fried fish on Fridays. When business dropped off in the late 1960s, Kossoff went to work for the Cleveland Vending Co. He serviced vending machines until he was 69. Then he returned to Catalano's to work part time until he was 80.

Kossoff struggled to support his family and "never thought he gave us enough," said daughter Claire. "But looking back at my childhood, I can't think of anything we wanted that we didn't get ... Dancing lessons. Acting lessons. BBYO (B'nai B'rith Youth Organization). He always had money for us to do those things that were important to us."

The Kossoffs raised their kids in Cleveland Heights and South Euclid. After their youngest, Teri Alexander, graduated from high school, they lived in various apartments until moving into the Schnurmann House retirement center in Mayfield Heights.

In his latter years, Kossoff planned seniors' bus trips to such places as Amish country, Toronto and Washington, D.C. "We would rent a bus and fill it up with friends," Millie said.

One of those friends, Maury Feren, remembered Kossoff as a man who wanted seniors from his Jewish Community Center group "to spread their wings and do interesting things. George felt secure in himself and confident he could do anything with the group. He never worried about successes. He believed in the possibilities."
 
Magnum, the example you cited is living proof that there's no formula for writing about the dead.

Speedway, find a good angle, be respectful, and tell the person's story. Find an anecdote or a trait about that person that only his loved ones knew about, or write about something that everyone in his life remembers him by, or that he was most known for. Or anything in between. Talk to everybody you can, and find out as much as you can.

And above all, get it right. A person only gets one obituary.
 
Intriguing subject. I guess I'd think about what I'd want people to ask my family if I kicked the bucket. I'd probably want people to know what makes me tick, what my passions are, what I truly want people to know about my life.
 
Don't fill your page with "he was a great person/father/husband"-type quotes. While his great person-ness may well be something to include, SHOW, don't tell. That is, if his wife tells you he was a great husband, ask, "Can you tell me about a time he did something especially sweet for you?" If his former teammates say he was a "tough-as-nails competitor," ask them about how he reacted after losses in card games, what dirty tricks he pulled in those fumble piles, etc. etc. In short: instead of telling his life's story with standard-form quotes, try to find revealing little stories to do so.
 
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One thing to add: the key is to capture your subject's uniqueness. Whether you're writing in the standard-obit-form Magnum provided a bit of or writing more creatively doesn't matter as much as that you GET him.

I think of obits like profile stories of living people - except ones for which I'm not able to talk to the subjects themselves.
 
sirvaliantbrown said:
I think of obits like profile stories of living people - except ones for which I'm not able to talk to the subjects themselves.

Some people are just lazy. Whoopi Goldberg is probably in the book these days.
 
(K, I'll stop after this one.)

Finally: don't omit the negative - or SEEMINGLY-negative. Say your athlete had a legendary temper...you have to talk about the legendary temper. And don't be afraid to ask his wife and kids and teammates about it! Chances are, they have great stories on the topic - about trying unsuccessfully to get him to calm down, about the time he lost to his son at driveway basketball and wouldn't talk to him the rest of the day, whatever. Some of the best obit material comes from asking questions you might initially not want to ask. Phrase them respectfully, but ask them nonetheless.
 
sirvaliantbrown said:
(K, I'll stop after this one.)

Finally: don't omit the negative - or SEEMINGLY-negative. Say your athlete had a legendary temper...you have to talk about the legendary temper. And don't be afraid to ask his wife and kids and teammates about it! Chances are, they have great stories on the topic - about trying unsuccessfully to get him to calm down, about the time he lost to his son at driveway basketball and wouldn't talk to him the rest of the day, whatever. Some of the best obit material comes from asking questions you might initially not want to ask. Phrase them respectfully, but ask them nonetheless.

Good suggestion. Be respectful, but don't be afraid to ask tough questions. When they're dealing with grief, people want -- hell, they need -- to talk. Try to get them to tell some stories about the person. If you can, see if you can get a son, daughter, or sibling to join the wife when you talk to her. Sometimes once you get a family going, talking about their deceased loved one, they'll start throwing out some great stories like the time he got drunk and tried to **** the light-up snowman at grandma's Christmas party.
Or just how he always had time to play catch on the lawn with little Johnny after a hard day's work. Either one works.
 
When my mother died a couple of months ago, I simply took an obit from our hometown paper and used it as a guide.

I figured if I did anything fancy, some desk clerk would change it anyway.
 
HandsomeHarley said:
When my mother died a couple of months ago, I simply took an obit from our hometown paper and used it as a guide.

I figured if I did anything fancy, some desk clerk would change it anyway.

Belated condolescences for your loss.
 
Speedway, if you can access anything online, you should look at the work of Kevin Cox, formerly of the Globe and Mail here in Canada. He did teach me about writing an obit. I consider him one of the best so you might want to take a look to get a feel of what and how you should write them.

If you would like to contact him, PM me and I can give you contact info for him. He likes to help people out.
 
Speedway said:
For the first time, I have been thrust into the role of writing an obituary and will be interviewing the appropriate family member of the deceased tomorrow.

Can anyone provide any practical advice on how to go about this process?

Much appreciated.

Is it really a true obituary? When did the person die? Sounds like there's a lapse in the time element here. If that is the case, don't focus so much on the man's death himself, focus on his loss to the community, family, etc.

I used to love writing feature obits when I was an intern, because you're able to tell a person's complete story. Many times, the family is appreciative of the opportunity to talk, especially if the deceased had been ill for a while and they're able to share some funny, positive stories. Each day, we'd go through the obits and try to find some special nugget to pull out and polish. The whistling cop was one, a former high school football coach and radio color guy was another.

I hate overstating our importance, but an obituary is like giving the family one final "gift" by which to remember their loved one.

And while there was a thread on here yesterday bemoaning anecdotal ledes, this is one situation where anecdotal is the way to go.
 
Go find the obits the New York Times did on each victim of 9/11. They did a few each day for quite a while. I think they can be found simply by Googling "New York Times" and "9/11 obits" or some such combination.

They were succinct yet revealed much about each person.
 
sirvaliantbrown said:
Don't fill your page with "he was a great person/father/husband"-type quotes. While his great person-ness may well be something to include, SHOW, don't tell. That is, if his wife tells you he was a great husband, ask, "Can you tell me about a time he did something especially sweet for you?" If his former teammates say he was a "tough-as-nails competitor," ask them about how he reacted after losses in card games, what dirty tricks he pulled in those fumble piles, etc. etc. In short: instead of telling his life's story with standard-form quotes, try to find revealing little stories to do so.

DONE. JUST READ THIS.
 
FreddiePatek said:
Go find the obits the New York Times did on each victim of 9/11. They did a few each day for quite a while. I think they can be found simply by Googling "New York Times" and "9/11 obits" or some such combination.

They were succinct yet revealed much about each person.
Do not, repeat DO NOT, read this unless you want to cry. I'm sitting in a press box with tears in my eyes.
 
GBNF said:
FreddiePatek said:
Go find the obits the New York Times did on each victim of 9/11. They did a few each day for quite a while. I think they can be found simply by Googling "New York Times" and "9/11 obits" or some such combination.

They were succinct yet revealed much about each person.
Do not, repeat DO NOT, read this unless you want to cry. I'm sitting in a press box with tears in my eyes.

Damn good, aren't they?
 
Lesson 1: Be respectful.
Remember that the people you are interviewing are dealing with the raw pain of losing a loved one. They will not be in the frame of mind of most of the people you talk to for gamers or what have you.

Lesson 2: Make sure you have all the facts right.
Seeing an obit get facts wrong may be a straw compared to the anvil of pain the family's dealing with, but that straw's going on top of a camel that's already buckling.

Lesson 3: Find an angle.
What was it about the person that's remarkable?

The one time I wrote an obituary, the angle I took was the woman who died was three weeks away from graduating from the university. I got the assignment -- in spite of my student paper's prohibition against a staffer working on two stories at once -- because the editors felt I'd handle the topic delicately enough.

Even so, it still was one of the hardest assignments I've ever had.
 

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