My ex-girlfriend's getting engaged...

2.5 years ago? Dude, grow a pair. And you broke up with here?!?!

Unless she was your first piece, you should get over it in time, but you may always think of her.

 

You should communicate better. Apparently she thought you did want to be with her when you broke up with her.

 

Excellent question. I was wondering, too. Why are you so upset over a woman you broke up with?

Even though I am happily married, there is one woman that I still feel that little twinge when she comes to mind. Not that I would ever want to change a thing, but it's still there. Probably always will be. But at the time, it wasn't my call for that to end.

 

That's what you get for humping the dog instead of her. ;D

(hanging curve, etc.)

 

Well, there's that.

 

Congratulations to you.

 

Five years later the ex-girlfriend sent me a wedding invitation. We had both been involved with other people in those five years and had stayed friends, but still. Our get-togethers had become less frequent over the past two years. I wasn't sure if she really wanted me there or was trying to be polite. We'd run into each other at a Blockbuster a few months earlier and she invited me over to watch the movie and meet the guy.

So I procrastinated for a few weeks. Her best friend called; she was handling the RSVPs. Said, "Aren't you coming?" I said sure, I'll be at the wedding, I don't think I can make the reception. For some reason I thought of an episode of the Mary Tyler Moore Show in which Lou Grant intended to attend his ex-wife's wedding and Mary told him that's something Sonny Bono would do, not you.

I went. I didn't expect to feel so much, but I did. But I was glad I went. I suppose it was my way of saying I really meant it about staying friends and I suppose it was her way, too. Eight years later I invited her to my wedding. She said she'd go but didn't show. But that's just the way she's always been -- not showing up, for dates, for jobs, for whatever -- and it's a big reason why we split in the first place. But I'll be sending a Christmas card to her next week with the rest. She's divorced now but has been living with someone for a few years. It's been 20 years since we were a couple.

 

It's not funny, clever or anything else. But it's so true. I nominate this for post of the year.

 

Two and a half years? And you want to mope about her being engaged? Turn in your man card. Now.

 

Agreed.

 

Especially since, if I read this correctly, he broke up with her!

 

Hey, Bruce is still moping about some girl who left him on the Boardwalk 30 years ago.