BREAKING NEWS: Hillary Clinton just can't buy a break

Ok, start by saying "I feel sad..." and then elaborate into a dictionary definition of empathy.

 

You really can't say there is a "proper" way to express grief or sympathy. Each person is going to have their own personal way of dealing with a particular situation.

 

So if your sister passes away

So if your family member dies tragically and its broadcast on this message board you'd rather I say "I feel sad" instead of, "I'm very sorry for your loss/my condolences/I'll pray for you and your family"?

If that happened to me, I'd rather have someone "I'm very sorry for your loss" than a flat out lie that they feel sad for someone they don't know or care about.

But that's just me.

 

I think it is dependent on whether you have a connection to the person or not. If someone on this message board had a family member die, then anything goes for how to show support and grief because there is a solid connection. I guess I'm arguing that when we see something that isn't connected to us directly, that we can choose to say we are sad if we are sad, or, we can do the "politically correct" thing and pray for someone or send condolences. When there is nobody receiving the condolences, or the prayers, you are just talking among your peers and telling them that you are capable of doing what is socially acceptable instead of feeling actual grief. It's a fine line and it's something I've meant to look into more deeply.

 

Cripes - HRC gets ripped for expressing sympathy for someone who died working to protect her. If she doesn't, I guess she appears cold and unsympathetic, like Bush not attending soldier's funerals (though he does meet with several families).

I know if someone died helping me do something (whether I knew them or not) I'd feel bad and somewhat responsible. The nut up in New Hampshire didn't have anything against the workers at Clinton's office, but did think breaking into the place and holding them hostage would get attention.

 

Am I allowed to say "It sucks" for the cop and his family and for Mrs. Clinton?

I sure wouldn't want to offend anyone by passing along condolences. :

 

I have articulated this sentiment more than once.

well done