Asking The Father's Permission For Marriage: Old and done, or traditional?

I've seen it happen before, Wicked.

 

It's my job to keep my parents informed on the state of my relationship, not my partner.

 

Touche, SC, just sayin' ...

 

...or the makings of a...



between sportschick and IJAG. (hee hee hee!)

 

Those kittens are far cuter than I.

 

sorry for not reading through the whole thing. my view: i asked my wife first. when she said yes, we then visited her folks and i asked for her father's BLESSING, not PERMISSION.

i don't see this as a negative gesture in any way -- unless you have zero relationship or an awful relationship with the future in-laws.

 

Taller, too.

 

Over/under on the "dead. to. me." blast is 10 minutes.

 

He's been Dead. To. Me! so many times, it's lost its effect.

 

I concur, IJAG, and add that asking a father for his daughter's hand in marriage is a sign of respect for not only her but for her family.

The gesture is not about property or ownership, it's about the privilege of becoming part of a family.

 

Did you marry one of Tevye's daughters?
(There's a great scene in Fiddler where the groom -- Perchik, I think -- refuses to ask for permission but asks for a blessing.)