What are we allowed to talk about?

1) When someone reports something it doesn't ring to a bat phone that we immediately respond to. We all have lives and this board is secondary for us.
2) Just because you report something doesn't mean you are going to get the outcome you think you should. And a lot of what we do is judgment. We're not perfect, but we do try to exercise good judgment as best as we can. Unfortunately, a good deal of what gets reported is either really petty -- best ignored -- or someone in a pissing match reporting a person or topic they can't keep in perspective.

If something on here bothers you -- including someone veering into a topic you think is a "violation" -- fine, report it. Then leave it to us to deal with.

But leave it be. Walk away and don't respond. Even if we didn't handle it to your satisfaction.

It's the people who jump in and inflame threads because they can't let something go who create most of the problems on here.

If someone drags Obama onto a thread, it just sits there and goes nowhere if a bunch of people who can't put a message board into proper perspective don't decide they have to deal with the "violation" themselves.

 

The politics thread is not locked because of only one person.

 

I learn something new every day.

 

I wasn't putting words in your mouth, I was explaining that we are not on here all the time, and moderating on here is a small part of our lives. Not everything is an argument or someone trying to have a pissing match with you.

Report things, as MileHigh suggested. It sometimes is warranted, and it leads us to things we hadn't seen.

But then forget about it.

It's simple.

It's really not that hard to walk away from an anonymous person / thread on a message board rather than having a pissing match that annoys the majority of people on here who don't want to see the BS. But some people just seem incapable of that.

We deal with things as best as we can. We are not perfect, but even if you think I (or any other moderator) have bad judgment, the moderators as a GROUP are a pretty reasonable collection of people.

We're not "picking favorites" the way some people think. We don't see everything that happens on the board -- even when it gets reported we might not be checking. And we don't necessarily think the thing you are in a twist about is a major deal -- even though you are upset. Also, we don't necessarily respond to everything, particularly when it is someone who has a history of being a pain in the ass. We get hit with quite a bit of whining. I can't speak for the others, but I am not going to spend my day responding to people who are constantly bickering on here and whining to us about it.

I try to be patient with people privately. If someone is upset, even if it didn't warrant a thread lock or whatever they wanted to see, in my opinion -- I do respond ONCE or twice. I suggest they walk away and not let a message board get to them. I think I am pretty courteous. You can't imagine how often that just gets an argument -- and often abuse -- in return about the post or thread that the person is upset about, or the person they don't like -- instead of, "You know, you're right. It's not worth getting this upset over."

After that, though, don't expect me to respond to you when you complain about something -- not when reporting something to you simply means you either get validated by the moderators or they are bad people.

If you can't just let something go -- regardless of whether you think we handled it well -- you should be questioning why you are so obsessed about posts on a message board.