Tired of trying to please everyone else!

Thing is, both are. One of them is like my brother. We do everything together. Our families eat dinner together twice a week, at least.

The other, I've known for about a year -- and been everywhere with, even on a couple of weekend camping/hiking trips in the PNW. We've been skiing together all summer.

The three of us are together all the time -- we play on the same softball team, for christ's sake.

 

Can't wait 40 minutes for a seafood boil...runs to McD's for a burger? That's gotta be the definition of Summertime Fail.

BTW, that restaurant sounds cool...fuck em if they can't handle a down-home place.

 

To credit the McDonald's guy, he is a pretty good sized dude who eats a lot. Not like a crazy workout, protein all the time, guy. Just eats a lot.

 

Maybe too much togetherness?

That said, they acted like assholes. I hope for your sake there's not a next time.

 

Could be. Our time together is winding down some. McDonald's guy is already in flight school; I start tomorrow; and the other guy in a month.

 

Would you say their behavior in this instance was an anomaly? Or is it something you're fed up with because of an accumulation of things?

I think sometimes people remain friends out of habit. If it's not a two-way street where they're actively being a friend to you, might be an occasion to reconsider.

 

wfw

 

This was a first from McDonald's guy. The other guy has shown his immaturity a couple of times.

 

McDonald's guy is a friend. If I needed a million bucks to get out of a jam with the mob, he'd go rob a bank or break legs for me. He helped take care of my wife while I was away this summer -- moving furniture, etc.

The other guy, maybe so. I don't know. We go to one another for advice from time to time. And tonight, he's helping me move a washer and dryer into the house in about an hour. He and I were two of 20 chosen by the Army to do what we're doing this year. We will be together for the next seven years. That's not a bridge I want to burn.

 

Not a matter of burning bridges..maybe a matter of you saying "I like to do things for my firends" and after a while some friends -- who don't often reciprocate --seeing it as "TBF always has to be the one in control"

 

Three bags,

It is possible that everyone's bad day came together at the same time. It is also possible that these people figure they are more important to you than you are to them. So what do they care what you think.

We have two couple that we hang around with a lot. After a couple of horrible vacations where no family really did what they wanted because everybody was always trying to make sure we all wanted to do the same thing, even when we didn't, we came up with a plan. Everyone would do what they wanted, if one of the other couples wanted to do that to, that was great, if not, have a great day, we'll see you when we get back. It worked out fine.

But, never overlook the possibility that people suck. :-\

 

shrimp boil, shrimp cocktail, shrimp salad ....