The one person for you. Reality or farce?

This is something that's been bouncing around instead my head for awhile.

Recently, I talked to a person who has just started a relationship. This person seems to be very happy with it, and called the significant other "the one."

That got me thinking. Yes, every now and then, I use my head for something other than wearing a hat.

Is there such a thing as "the one"? Is there a person out there that's perfect for you? Or is that idea nothing more than a fairy tale? Could it be that there are some people who will go through life without ever experiencing love?

 

"The one" is the one, of many, that you pick.

 

What about people who think they're never going to experience love; that there isn't a person for them?

 

If you have a preconception that it will never happen, that will certainly make it more difficult. My theory is that you can make it work with many different people given the right circumstances. Luck and timing turn out to be the most important factors.

 

I had a good feeling early on in dating my wife that she was "the one." But I would argue you don't know that for sure until you both realize the attraction and friendship is still there after you've both become comfortable enough to fart in the other's presence.

 

I believe that there isn't always someone for everyone.

I don't think there is a "one" for me.

 

Does that include dutch ovens?

 

I think for some people, there is "the one." For others, there's "the one for right now." People change over time, and it's our ability (us and the person we're with) to adapt to those changes that helps a relationship survive over a long period of time. At least in a successful sense.

I loved being married to both my wives, but as we all changed, our overall inability to keep up with those changes is what eventually led to the divorces.

 

I never believed in "The One" until I met my wife. There's no reason for anyone to believe in it until it happens to them.

 

Also, it helps if you actually meet people so you can sift through them to get to "the one."

Also hurting your chances: If you're a miserable prick, a loner, or socially inept.