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The Ladder Theory - attraction between men and women

Discussion in 'Anything goes' started by Double J, Apr 26, 2009.

  1. dreunc1542

    dreunc1542 Active Member

    Ah. Sounds like fun. I'll see ya in 10 years.
  2. Blair Waldorf

    Blair Waldorf Member

    This whole theory is bunk. If it were real, I never would have dated or married my husband ... because he was clearly on the 'friend ladder' before we started dating/moved in together/got married.

    Put me at the strange kids' table, but I preferred my spouse also be my best friend.
  3. dooley_womack1

    dooley_womack1 Well-Known Member

    It could have been crap in another way. Don't jump down my friggin' throat for being curious about your specific reasoning.
  4. lono

    lono Active Member

    Whew. And Mrs. Lono rests a little easier tonight ...
  5. imjustagirl

    imjustagirl Active Member

    What the hell's wrong with you? :D
  6. Blair Waldorf

    Blair Waldorf Member

    Fuck - where should we start?
  7. ArnoldBabar

    ArnoldBabar Active Member

  8. imjustagirl

    imjustagirl Active Member

    Fixed. :D
  9. Matt Foley

    Matt Foley Member

    Just like IJAG said doubleJ, what happened to you has absolutely nothing to do with ladders, she was just a fucking psycho bitch. I'm sorry, but even if she had made it ABSOLUTELY clear that you two were nothing but friends and would never be anything else, and then you had still gone in for the kiss, for her to completely end the friendship like that tells you just how nutso and low caliber she is.
  10. KYSportsWriter

    KYSportsWriter Well-Known Member

    i'm with ijag on this. there are no ladders in my relationships because i know where i stand with a lot of my friends.
  11. schiezainc

    schiezainc Well-Known Member

    I prefer to think of it like this:

    Everyone you know fits into one giant category: Acquaintances.

    From those acquaintances, you've got your friends and non-friends. Friends, in this case, defines the type of people you want to spend time with in a social situation.

    Of those friends, there are people you want to keep as strictly friends and there are people who may or may not be more.

    At the end of the day, if you want a relationship to work, I whole-heartily believe you've got to snag someone who started in the friend category and worked their way into your "more than friends" category. A good relationship means you have communication and it's hard to have communication without getting to know someone first.
  12. alleyallen

    alleyallen Guest

    You absolutely can have platonic female friends. But I think where it changes it from the man's side. Some men seem better equipped to firmly place some females in the just friends category than other men. I can, to an extent, but usually I've already established that those in the friends category are women I would never have a chance to sleep with in the first place.

    Why lie?
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