The ex who won't go away (and won't/can't let go)

Some people like that, it's not our business.

I hope you at least own the tux by now.

 

How did they get in? And did they wear tuxes?

 

No, I think they wore an ass-ugly purple shirt with white flowers on it.

 

;D

 

I would give advice but it probably wouldn't be any good. Besides, I'm "young" and married, thus negating the whole dual relationship vibe that can occur. As such, I can only say that you should pick the one that enjoys soccer. She would be the smarter of the two.

In any case, good luck finding happiness.

 

Uh, no. :

If I ever get married again, it won't be to a soccer fan, I can say that much.

 

you've answered your own question. you say all you want now is fun, not a long-term thing. the ex was fun. that's what you want.

 

Christ!

 

When the milk is spoiled, putting it back in the refrigerator won't make it right again.

 

as far as Ms. Dynamo, that hand has been played out.

Maybe see what happens with Ms. Steady, but don't make that an exclusive situation at this point. Like Rosie says, take some time. figure out what you want.

 

you get that one from a fortune cookie? 8) 8) 8) ??? ??? ???

for all this "dear abby" advice, i know several happily married folks who got back together after breakups during their courtship.

 

This very much mirrors my situation post-divorce, and the explosive one and I have been on and off again a number of times, now just friends, but sometimes more ... she's great, but I'll warn ya, if you keep being yes-and-no with somebody like that, it severely hampers your ability to move on -- and that goes double if you still inhabit the same bars, restaurants, etc.