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The demise of "Thank You" (a rant)

Discussion in 'Anything goes' started by Dyno, Jul 28, 2006.

  1. Dyno

    Dyno Well-Known Member

    What happened to people saying thank you? I know I’m becoming a curmudgeon as I age, but I’ve noticed that fewer and fewer people are saying thank you these days (to me, at least).

    Today, as I was leaving my notoriously confusing office building, I held the door open for a normal-looking, 50-something woman. She was clearly lost and said, “I really wish I could figure out where I need to go.” I asked her what she was looking for and pointed her toward the correct elevator. Did she thank me? Of course not.

    A co-worker and his wife had a baby a few months ago. I sent a gift and card to their house. A couple of weeks after I sent the gift, the wife came into the office. When I walked past her in the hall, I asked how the baby was. Her response was, “Oh, he’s fine. And hey, listen, we got your gift. I don’t have time to write thank you notes, so you’re just going to have to deal with it.” Nice, eh? And she never even thanked me!

    In the past week, I was not thanked for my business at the following stores: Neiman Marcus, Target, Starbucks and Safeway. I feel like asking for the cashier to say “thank you” as they hand me my change/receipt/item is not too much. Am I wrong?
  2. cougargirl

    cougargirl Active Member

    As a whole, the virtue of politeness has simply gone out the window.
  3. busuncle

    busuncle Member

    Thank-you notes were pounded into me so much as a kid that I am dumbfounded when I discover that other people don't believe they're necessary.
    My mom would have a little notebook on Xmas day to list all the gifts from various relatives and then she would spend the rest of the Xmas break hounding me and my brothers to write thank-you notes.
  4. Flash

    Flash Guest

    No 'thank you,' no gift from me next time. I hold the door open for you, I will say 'you're welcome' very loudly if you don't express your gratitude. No 'thank you' for my business and that's the last you see of me.
  5. Duane Postum

    Duane Postum Member

    Y'know, I can't claim to be much good about thank you notes, but to say "You're going to have to deal with it" to the person I didn't send a thank-you note to? That's some serious-ass nerve.
  6. Rockbottom

    Rockbottom Well-Known Member

    I am married to a comely lass who seemed to be reared on this tack, and it has taken the better part of five years for me to gently drive home the point that saying "thank you" when I do something nice generally incites more niceness.

  7. outofplace

    outofplace Well-Known Member

    Maybe she thought she was being cute. Or maybe she had a post-partum thing going (sometimes the hormones are worse than during the pregnancy) Or maybe she's just a jerk.
  8. shockey

    shockey Active Member

    thank-you notes are a pain, even though my folks harrass me to this day about them. but some sort of acknowledgment is in order, whether it be a phone call or email. oral politeness is dying, it seems, which makes me stand out even more among people who serve me. my kids have been raised to be vocally demonstrative, too. referring to adults they know as mr./mrs. so-and-so is nice to hear from them, too.

    of course, the kids i know well who slip and call me "mr. shockey" get slapped around. "mr. shockey's my dad. i'm jeremy." that shit just makes me feel old. 8) 8) 8)
  9. Terd Ferguson

    Terd Ferguson Member

    There is no excuse for people not to say "Thank you" when you make your purchase. None. That's just good business and when people don't do it, it infuriates me. I generally reply to their silence with a loud, sarcastic "Your welcome."
    I worked for a time in food service and retail through high school and college, so maybe that's why it pisses me off so much. I realize how little effort it takes.
    These damn kids today! [/20-something going on 80-something]

    As for thank you notes, I frickin hate writing them, but I know it hurts/pisses me off when I don't get them, so I force myself to write them. I'll force my children to write them, just like my mom forced me. It's just common decency and an absolute must for growing up in the South.
  10. alleyallen

    alleyallen Guest

    This is not a joke ... my mom would slap the back of my head if I didn't hold the door open for a woman as a kid. Now I open car doors for any female riding with me, I let women get on elevators first, I stand up from the table when a woman gets up or sits down, etc., etc., etc. I kind of like being one of the few men with manners any more because it makes me stand out.
  11. TwoGloves

    TwoGloves Well-Known Member

    I hate myself every time I get something from a drive-thru window and say thank you to the person who handed me the food but doesn't thank me in return for my business. I swear, one of these days I'm going to say, "Get used to working at the drive-thru window. You're going to be there a while."
  12. ballscribe

    ballscribe Active Member

    i do the old "You're WELCOME" thing too, when the lack of courtesy from the "customer service" sector, or anyone on whom I bestow a random act of kindness, pisses me off.

    I got the thank-you notes thing ingrained in me, too. Three weeks after my wedding (two of which were spent on the honeymoon), they were all in the mail.

    The other thing that really sort of makes me laugh is the response to "Thank you" when dealing with CSP (customer-service personnel).
    This seems to be a uniquely American phenomenon, and it gathers strength the further south you go, for some reason.

    Customer: Thank you very much.
    CSP: UH-huh! (sounds better said out loud than spelled)

    Love that one.
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