The C Word

KG,

You are in my thoughts and prayers. My grandmother had cancer when I was in high school. Had a mastectomy on one of her breasts and a round of chemo and went into remission. Last year, the cancer came back in the other. She had it removed, too and is recovering well. I am praying for a good recovery for your mother as well. You have a good sounding board here. As much as we all bicker and fight, this place is like a family. You can always come to anyone here and they'll support you and cry for you and with you.

 

Wow, KG.....sorry to hear the bad news. Try to stay positive, give whatever support your mom needs.. and, based, on your family history.. not too early to think about how this impacts you and your future health and if there's anything measures you can take.

 

KG--Have yourself the crazy cry you deserve, and then look forward. Options, treatment, survival.

There are countless cancer survivors out there...never stop believing your mom will be one of them.

 

Many, many prayers, KG.
Think optimistic.

 

My grandmother died of breast cancer and while it was hard on everyone, it did bring the family together which was a great thing. I learned a lot about death by seeing how she lived.

The best thing you can do is give her love and encouragement. Enjoy your time together, say everything you're scared of saying, and let the chips fall where they may.

Regardless of the outcome, you'll be a better person for having gone through all of this.

Take care.

 

KG,
I've been fearing the worst since you first posted about your mom.

And it didn't dawn on me this morning when I first saw the thread, thinking it was something entirely different. I didn't check the thread until just now, and my heart sank.

But know that this beatable. My grandmother is a survivor going on two years now, and her prognosis at the beginning was not very good. But she made it through and has shown no signs of the disease since.

From getting to know you over the last several months, I know you are a strong woman. And knowing you're probably just like your mom, I'd be willing to bet she's a strong woman. Just know that if you ever need to talk, I'm just a phone call away.

Much love,
KY

 

KG, my prayers are with you and your mom.

If you're so inclined, I just looked up a site that may help you in your prayers.

http://www.rosary-center.org/howto.htm

In just a short time at that site I feel I've learned a lot about how I need to pray.

I will continue to pray for her and you.

Be strong. This isn't a death sentence at this point by any means.

 

Hugs and prayers, KG. Stay strong.

 

Just an update. The cancer is too aggressive for surgery right now. She has to do six months of chemo before they'll even think about surgery. She'll find out more about what stage it is after they remove a lymph node next week.

Thanks for all the thoughts and prayers. It helps to know people are thinking of her. It also helps to know have have people to go to if I need to talk. I'm warning you now, I've pretty much stayed in denial so far, and I don't know how much longer I can stay sane.

 

More prayers coming.

Don't put expectations on yourself about when it would be OK to let go of denial. You'll have the reactions you need to be having based on that moment. Trust yourself, both your mind and your heart.

 

I can't believe I just read this thread now. I'm sorry to find out everything you're going through. You'll be in my thoughts.

As a cancer survivor myself, I know how hard it must be for you to deal with your mother and this battle. The other frame of reference I have besides my grandmother and great aunt surviving breast cancer and my grandfather dying from lung cancer is trying to imagine how my father felt about his SON facing a life or death battle.

There were times when we'd wait for the doctor that I was trying to calm my father down. Hell, there were times I wished he weren't at the doctor's office with me, and I normally relied on him to explain all the medical terms to me since he's a retired registered nurse and I always worry about whether or not I can understand what the doctors talk about.

If you need anything, I'm a PM away.

 

All good thoughts for you and your family.