Tell me something that's good about being single

I did not get married until my mid 30's so lived the single life well past university. I would not trade my family for anything but there are things that I do miss about the single life most of which have already been mentioned, especially the complete lack of "checking in" when making plans.

I never found dating that frustrating as I found it to be a bit of an adventure. I do miss the thrill of new women.

Sorry that I did not answer the question of single life but I guess that I am not so far removed from it still feels like I was recently single even though it's been almost 10 years.

 

I was single until 43 years of age and sometimes I miss it very much. Don't get me wrong, life with JR has much to recommend it but I miss having complete autonomy.
- you can buy whatever the hell you want
- you can decorate however the hell you want
- you can eat whenever the hell you want
- you can eat whatever the hell you want
- you can go where you want, when you want
- as previously mentioned, no checking in with your SO

I wish you all the best, Mr. C. And I hope JR doesn't give me the silent treatment all weekend.

 

when we were single, a very good friend of mine -- like me, also very happily married for more than 20 years -- agreed on this when we were single: there's nothing quite like the excitement, the sense of accomplishment, the ego-fulfillment -- of wooing a woman and then sleeping with her for the first time. even though the first time you have sex with a person can be hit-or-miss in terms of quality, the excitement of that first time with a person makes up for whatever it might lack in quality.

and to expand on the theory a bit, but anticipation of every phone call in the early stages of a relationship is a terrific sensation. i think young singles today, including teens have been largely robbed of much of that by social networking, where communicating in a non-vocal, direct way can go by the wayside.

it also sucks that with EVERYONE having a cell phone kids never have to have the awkward but maturing experience of calling a girl (or boy) at their home on the universal FAMILY phone, have the mom or dad answer, and then have to ask, 'um, hello, mrs. cleaver this is shockey, may i speak to your daughter (as i continue in my awkward quest to ravage her and rob her of her virginity?)'

an example: eldest shockey heir and his gf have been 'together' for two years now. not once has she called here and had to talk to mrs. shockey or i first. and neither has shockey heir ever had to go through her mom/dad before speaking to the gf.

 

On the occasions I think about this, I imagine, first of all, being able to call my own shots. Go out for a beer after work. Go to a particular baseball game on a Wednesday night off if I feel like it. And it all being my decision.

And it takes about 20 seconds for me to realize that I'd tire of that in about two weeks, and I like doing stuff with my wife better than I like doing stuff without her.

I'm also a big advocate of having someone nearby who can always call you on your bullshit.

 

I'll call you on shit. Virtually.

As for the exes, depends. First date? Bad idea. When things are serious and committed and you want her to know why you are how you are and what you've been through? I think that's only common sense.

 

Good points here, shockey.

Although, I'm sure young men still get the "enjoyment" of meeting gf's dad as they go to pick her up. Or worse yet, bring her home late!

 

I made sure that happened. That's not to say it ever went over well.