Married folks, how'd you trim down your wedding's guest list?

I love that I live in a very different world from you people.

 

Seriously. My friend's getting married in June. Hers is $250 a head.

 

If you have that kind of money to spend, great. If you don't, then what's the point?

 

Too high?

 

After the wedding (we got married in Hawaii with about 40 family members then a reception for 200 for the locals), I found that wedding planning was a great pre-test for marraige; its all about compromise.

As for the actual cutting, its true, start at the very top with the must-haves, then start narrowing it down from there. As others said, "used to be close" people are nearly automatic if its not feasible; its a fact of life that you have gone separate ways and not a big deal. Yeah, you'd like to invite those who invited you but your budgets were probably different.

Most importantly, enjoy the day with your spouse and forget the small stuff when the day is there (hopefully you only have one!)

 

We managed to bring it in at about $75 a head, which I was thrilled with.

Which brings me to something that seriously pissed me off. Three couples RSVP'd and then didn't show. All they had to do was drop an email or something so we could adjust the number with our caterer. But not only did they no-show, they basically stuck us with their dinner bill. That's several hundred bucks we really could have used. Not cool.

 

We did the whole wedding for under $3,000. My grandma did all the cooking.

 

Where is this wedding for $25/person, Chuck E Cheese??

 

It all depends on your means.
If you're making $100k a year, it's ridiculous to spend $50k on the wedding, so $250 per head is out of the question, assuming a guest list of 200.
Depending on income level, $25-$50 per head is reasonable.