Life takes a turn for the weird

Yes.

 

WFW.

 

That DEFINITELY makes you sound like a dick. Some people believe -- for a number of different reasons, many of them religious -- that they should "save themselves" as the ultimate gift to their spouse.
Personally, I think that's a beautiful thing. I didn't live up to that standard, but I think those who do are amazing people.
That takes incredible determination in this day and age.
Honestly, I think if you can't handle it, she's too good for you.

 

I was really hoping you wouldn't read this thread and if you did, you'd keep it quiet.
And to answer Kokane's question, five times since the blind date.

 

Ding, ding, ding! That's the problem with people (usually religious types, but not always) who place soooooooo much emphasis on marriage. They forget about the dating. They forget about getting to know someone as a person or just having fun and enjoying someone's companionship. They're too busy going through the "good husband/wife, good father/mother" checklist in their head. Because it's not just that they don't believe in sex before marriage, they believe that marriage and parenthood are the ultimate accomplishments in life.

That is fair. You want someone who shares your interests and values, just like she does. Your values are different. Not "right" or "wrong" but different.

If she goes back to her friends and says "it didn't work, we have different values" she is heralded as a model of Christian womanhood. Don't feel bad about making that same pronouncement.

 

Seriously?

She's a 34-year-old virgin and we're going to blast Jay for being a little weirded out by that?

You're fine, Jay. It is a little weird.

 

It is by definition unusual.

 

Date divorced women and you never have to worry about this.

 

Not read a thread that you started!?! Unpossible!!!

And your secret is safe with me, Clark Kent.

That said, do you like her? Do you enjoy spending time with her? Can you cope with not hitting it? If so, then keep seeing her.

 

Bullshit.

By ascribing "good" and "bad" to the situation and choices people make, you're disrespecting the values and beliefs of those who don't share yours.

 

I don't think anyone has blasted him.
I certainly haven't meant to.
My point is simply that if it bothers him to the point he can't deal with it, he needs to move on because she is obviously looking for a husband and time is not on her side.
And it's just my opinion, but those who are greatly bothered by the convictions of others are shutting out a lot of really good people from their lives.

 

If the friends that set you up knew, they should have let you know.
It doesn't sound like you want to continue, so why do it?