Life takes a turn for the weird

And does her name rhyme with Mulva?

 

I think you were understandably freaked out, but don't you at least respect her convictions? Even if you don't agree with them, I think it says a lot about a person if they can stick to something they believe in even when the easy (and fun) thing to do is go against it.
If you can't handle it, you need to tell her now and not waste her time.

 

Someone has to be the first one.. why not you?

 

Well, shoot I don't know that's what I was worried about reading the post. Although I suck at dating so I'm probably wrong. And if she didn't sound offended, I'm sure you're fine, Jay. As I said earlier, best of luck and I hope everything goes well for you, sir.

 

Once I had a woman drop the virgin bomb on me AFTER the deed had been done. It was so weird, because it wasn't like we waited very long. Then a few weeks later she just drops into casual conversation that I had been the first. Not surprisingly, she turned out to be a psycho (unannounced drop-bys at my work, drive-bys of my apartment).

 

She's entitled to make that choice. He's entitled to choose not to pursue a relationship that doesn't include sexual intimacy without marriage.

You're entitled to be surprised, but you might still have come off badly in the exchange. It's difficult to determine without being privy to the exchange or at least interpretations from both sides.

 

Course, in relationships, EVERYTHING is difficult to determine without interpretations from both sides....and the dog, if available.

 

And I'm kinda wondering if I shouldn't be a little pissed at my friends.
I took, "she hasn't dated much" to mean that she hadn't dated much, not that she was waiting for some Hollywood-inspired notion of romantic love where only one person out of six freaking billion on the planet is the "one" and you'll meet that person and you'll know and that will be only person. Ever.
The text wasn't a transcript. I don't think I came across as a dick to her and I know she didn't take it that way. I got the feeling I wasn't the first person who did a spit take. And she wants me to come over tomorrow night for dinner — she's cooking — and some Olympics watching.
And I do respect her convictions, to a degree. It is an impressive thing to pull off, not, you know, to pull them off, but still. I think it just creates some unreasonable expectations.
It is a husband tryout, not a date.
I don't know if that is fair and to be honest, as much as I hate the way this makes me sound, if I had known upfront. I don't think I would have went on the blind date.

 

Jay, how many dates you been on with this girl?

 

Yeah, you should be really pissed at your friends. My god, they set you up with a really nice girl who is a VIRGIN. The nerve.

 

But what are you going to do if this girl's cousin is friends with the wife of a SJ member?

 

Run, Jay, run.