Is it worth it? Marriage/job question

good advice.

let us know how it works out.

 

I'll echo the TALK TO HER first sentiment.

You shouldn't even consider not talking to her.

Good luck.

 

The problem with communicators is that they don't communicate. Talk with the wife, see how she feels. If you feel that this is a once in a lifetime opportunity, one that eventually could benefit the family, go for it.
Looking at a job is one thing. Getting the job and securing it is an entirely different thing.
You have to take steps and the first one is talking with her. The next is applying. Hopefully after that, you'll get an interview and then the job.
After that is when the real work comes in. Moving, finding housing, schools for th kids, etc.
Right now, you are worrying about nothing. You'll have a difficult decision IF you get the job.

 

Magnum, what's her employment situation like? Would it be easy for her to get another job in her field, if she is working?

Things like that, to me, matter more than the family implications. Generally, you can hop on a flight somewhere and be there in a couple hours, as long as you don't have to fly through Atlanta or O'Hare. But don't put her in a situation where she has no chance of independence, either, and can't find a decent gig, if that is what she desires.

 

Gandhi's priority list:

1. My wife, my family
2. My golf game
3. My wife, my family
4. My golf game

Honorable Mention: My career

Work to live, Don't live to Work

 

If she loves you, she'll let you interview and seriously consider the job.

 

This is wonderful, pointed advice.
Boots, you ok?

 

Here's the update:

We talked this morning. She's fine with me applying. No problem at all.

That's why I think Playthrough is on the money. It's not real yet so it's hard to have a real talk with real consequences. The key is she's being supportive and we'll see where everything falls.

She said her only concern is schools for the kids, which is my concern as well. Moving won't affect her employment status.

I don't think I'm being selfish about looking elsewhere, especially if it means more money, etc. We both like where we are but I'd be lying if I said we had roots here. We would, however, more than double the drive to her parents house, which would be about a day's drive.

I still hear about moving her away from her family in the first place - and that was a necessity, not a whim.

 

Oh, by the way, thank you everyone for offering advice. I really appreciate it.

 

If her ONLY concern is schools for the kids, then I think you have a great shot. Make sure she’s being completely honest with herself when she says that.

School is something that can be worked around. Your wife’s happiness cannot.

 

Great wives and family situations are much harder to find that good jobs.

If you have it all, be thankful.