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How to deal with a breakup

Discussion in 'Anything goes' started by RedHotChiliPrepper, May 29, 2006.

  1. imjustagirl2

    imjustagirl2 New Member

    Dye, being serious here: How do you expect him to solve his best friend? Just give up on his best friend because she's a female?
    What about living situations? He doesn't want to live there any more, she does.

    The job thing...eh. That's the easiest one to fix, perhaps, if one of them is willing to give up what they do. But I know several friends who wouldn't give up their careers for anything.
  2. tonysoprano

    tonysoprano Member

    No matter what ...it's tough.

    We're in a business where healthy, strong relationships are damned hard to have and sustain. I know so many of my co-workers who have been divorced, and who have resorted to self-destructive behavior (alcoholism, execessive gambling, etc.).

    I will not do it, and I firmly believe that the best is yet to come.
  3. tonysoprano

    tonysoprano Member

  4. tonysoprano

    tonysoprano Member

    For you veteran journalists ...how hard is it to truly believe in a long-lasting marriage?
  5. Bubba Fett

    Bubba Fett Active Member

    True Lies, Tom Arnold's only decent performance.

    And I don't have any advice to offer. Sorry.
  6. Moderator1

    Moderator1 Moderator Staff Member

    I have 28 years in - it hasn't always been easy but they're in the books. You can look it up.
  7. Moderator1

    Moderator1 Moderator Staff Member

    Hey, dude asked.

    It IS possible.

    Actually, she just called. She's never coming home. I hope that cheers everyone up.
  8. tonysoprano

    tonysoprano Member

    RedHot -- Keep your head up

    I know I'll make it, and I'm sure you will too.
  9. OTD

    OTD Well-Known Member

    We're coming up on 22 years. It hasn't all been bliss, but most of it has. I think it's helped that she's in the business too, so she understands why I work late (and vice-versa) and everything.
    Our kids would probably like it better if we were 9-to-5ers, but then there were the times like when my son got to visit his favorite team's locker room and meet the players. I think it evens out.

    RedHot: Sorry about your breakup. It's been a while, but I have felt that pain.
  10. Flash

    Flash Guest

    I can't beat that but I did have a four-year relationship end by e-mail. Yup, e-mail. Not quite the Post-It note that Burger gave Carrie Bradshaw but pretty heartless nonetheless.
    I can't be more eloquent than some who have posted before me. It's tough. I'm just getting over another breakup myself. It's been a month and some and damn if it doesn't still hurt like hell. But not every day. Not even every second day.
    So it will get better. In time.
    And all we can do is learn from what we just went through and be better because of it.
  11. 21

    21 Well-Known Member

    RedHot (or maybe today, ColdBlue, but you'll be back)---this will sound harsh, but it's heartfelt:  she did you a favor. If she had these issues now, they would be worse once you got married.  I know this much about long relationships: the good things get better....the hard things rarely do.  When you find the relationship with limited hardships and differences, that's the keeper.

    Also, people SAY they don't believe in 'breaks' but if it's meant to be, she'll find her way back.  If she doesn't, this is not the woman you were meant to spend your life with.

    I know too many people who married because 'it was time' or 'the clock ran out.'  Now they're all divorced or they hate their spouse.

    You didn't say how old you are, but I'll guess you have lots of wonderful years of freedom ahead of you, to find the girl who wants to make it work.

    And do whatever Moddy says, I trust him completely.
  12. Who Knows

    Who Knows Member

    That is the best thing to remember. Somewhere down the line, payback or karma or whatever you want to call it, will catch up with her. You may not even know when it happens to her, but sometime it will happen.

    In the meantime, play some PS2 or Xbox, or grab a couple beers or go to the theater. Life will go on.
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