Help me reconcile some feelings

Easy to say when you've come back from the dead.

 

I get that accidents happen, boys will be boys, etc., but when they do, the parent who's in charge of supervision needs to own up to it and at least show some level of sympathy for the accident that happened.

That didn't happen in CI's case. So I understand his angst.

 

Is this the first occasion where your child has gotten hurt over there or with this family? If yes, I would not look too deeply into this.

 

Take the same shovel that IJAG got pummeled with, and do the same to that little bastard that hit your kid.

 

Someone else mentioned it earlier, but did the parents actually know the child was hurt? The kids might have rushed him home because they figured his mom might know best.

Plus, the golf-swinging kid was one of the kids bringing the hurt boy home. That says something about him willing to take the responsibility.

As for the mom of the golf kids, I would think the first thing going through her mind is, "Oh shit, we're going to get sued." That probably explains her cold reaction.

 

Yeah, the other mom might have run inside for a moment to arrange a rendezvous with Freq change a load of laundry.

 

I would cut the mom some slack and at least talk to her for a minute before cutting your child off from a friend.

And I used to hit golf balls into a field behind my house when I was growing up all the time. We used to try and bounce them off of the barn roof.

 

He said that the mother gave his child ice for his eye, so yes, she knew he was hurt.

Great that the kid took responsibility. Maybe he can teach his mother a thing or two.

 

I've got two kids, ages five and nine.
Here's what I would do and it's quite a simple solution:

Don't let your boy go over there anymore.

If the parents come to you and ask why then you tell them truth. If they give you a hard time tell them to get lost.
When he was little my nephew developed the habit of trying to hurt my daughter when no one was looking (I caught him trying to choke her once) and my sister-in-law and her husband refused to do anything about it.
I told my mother in law that anyone who posed a risk to my daughter would not be allowed to see her again - no exceptions including my blood relatives - and my mother in law (who is a good grandmother and has common sense) made sure the message was received.
Next time the kids were together and during following visits grandma made sure an adult was with them the whole time.
Problem solved.
The welfare of your children come first. Everyone else is a distance second

 

Trying to choke your daughter? That's not playing around, that's psychopath territory. Sounds like the kid should have been put down like a rabid dog.

 

A friend of ours had their son hurt while he was at another kid's house. When the mother brought him home she said, "It wasn't my fault." no fewer than 20 times.

I think people are more worried about being blamed than they are being sued. Nobody wants to feel responsible for a kid getting hurt.