Give newly single Wicked relationship/dating advice

Re: Give newly single Wicked relationship advice

Grab a load of laundry and hit one of the local laundry mats. Talk a lot and toss in that you're buying a washer-dryer set next week. That will grab attention. People hate going to the laundry mat. If you play your cards well, you might be able to pull off a dinner-laundry combo at your place. Of course, you'll have to make it look like you just bought a washer-dryer set. An advantage is that most who require laundry mats tend to wait until they have nothing to wear before doing laundry. So your competition will look ridiculous.

You can also meet people at the gym. The nice thing about that is that you also get to enhance your physique while rebounding.

The best thing you can do, though, is invest in yourself. Take some time to enjoy the extra freedom that comes with having nobody bitching about the way you switched lanes before the exit or the way you put your shirt and pants on the dining table after work. Find a new hobby or two. You may meet someone through that.

 

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One of the reasons this didn't work out is the time thing. I work nights, she works days and has a second job in retail at night. "I never get to talk to you," she said. Which is true. But if we wanted it to work, we would've worked harder to make it work.

Anyway, my point being ... unless you bang a colleague, stripper or overnight-shift female cop, you never can find anyone whose schedule is in sync with yours. Does make the finding-time thing hard.

Cristiano, some dude in college claimed he would "poke" chicks on facebook and they would respond. And he'd get dates. (This was a couple years ago, when facebook still was in its infancy.) The kid always said he played AAA ball when he was a AA player, if you know what I mean, so who knows how valid the claims of his real-life poking were.

 

Re: Give newly single Wicked relationship advice

One word, wicked, one word: interns. Strippers are good too, though.

 

Hey man, is it cool if I give her a call? I mean, if it's not cool with you I won't do it. I just thought I would ask. You know what, never mind. Just forget I asked, it was a stupid idea. Unless it's cool with you?

 

The women that play ultimate frisbee can fit that category as well.
(Several years ago I had to cover some kind of regional ultimate frisbee championship and in the women's division some of the players brought blankets to hang out on while not playing, kinda shocking to see sex toys laying out in the open on some of those blankets)

 

Find a speciality internet dating site (centered around religion, another interest) and use that. I'm Jewish and met my wife on a Jewish singles dating site.

E-Harmony sucks. They claim to give you only the highest compatability of matches. In my case, after I first joined I was given 6 or 7 matches right off the bat. I got rejected by (or I rejected) all but one before the e-mails/get to know question forms started getting exchanged. Got as far as supposed to be having a phone converasation with one, but she never returned my calls. There are people on there allegedly looking for their soulmate or the deeper, personality based match, but won't agree to exchange e-mails or the get to know you questions unless you have a picture posted so they can see what you look like first.

 

For example:

www.bestiality.net

 

It's either the grocery store or Russia... you make the call...

 

I won't go the intern route. Look what happened to Bob Greene.

 

Dear heaven, not even us slo-pitch hussies are that blatant.

 

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Hmmmmmm...

Anyhow, as I till through some of these suggestions, I find a common theme here. Namely, the same thing doesn't work for every person.

Yes, the on line dating thing may not have those usual "love at first sight" sparks, but then, I'm not sure how often that really happens. Of course, I'm not talking about getting "facebook ass", but rather using some of those legit sites that seem to have worked for a good number of people.

I'm also getting the sense that schedules make it difficult. In this profession, true, it can be a hindrance. But it's not like there aren't ways to get around it. I know a lot of colleagues who wake up at 6 a.m. with their morning job spouses, just because they know that's a chance to spend time with them.

One of my co-workers is married to a teacher. They're the most adorable couple you'll ever meet (yes, I'm a heterosexual guy who said "adorable" and I'm perfectly fine with that). Many a night he will leave the office at 11 p.m. or later, only to wake up at sunrise. And why? So he can talk to his wife. And they both seem as happy as the day they were married.

Schedules are used often as an excuse. I know that sounds harsh, but I know too many guys in this business who find a way to make time. Now, does it make it hard to meet people? It can. But that also takes work. You get out what you put in, I suppose.

Though I'll add that our culture has such a stigma attached to being single these days. Maybe you should just enjoy the process.

 

This is my first completely single holiday in a long, long time, and trust me, this is a great perk of that.