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Girl Problems II: Help the College Boy

Discussion in 'Anything goes' started by Apex, Nov 28, 2006.

  1. Apex

    Apex Member

    I haven't posted in awhile, but as a general update I'm now in college. I'm sure some of the long-timers here may (or probably not) remember helping me out two years ago with my prom date situation two years ago. Well, I'm in a bit of a pickle again and have nobody but the anonymous masses at SJ to help me out.

    I feel like the scum of the earth right now. I have a girlfriend that I've been dating for over a year now and I love her. I really feel like we have a future together. Regardless, she means a lot to me.

    I just was home over Thanksgiving break. This girl that I hung out with a little in high school (she was on the HS paper with me) ran into me at the bookstore in town, and we went and talked in my car. Well, though I knew it was wrong the entire time, but the encounter ended up with us making out .

    I don't like this girl in a romantic way at all. I knew it was wrong and now cannot believe I did something like that to betray my current girlfriend. I am in a state of deep regret.

    My main question: how do I handle this? Do I confess my sins and beg for forgiveness? Ignore it and hope the guilt of my transgression dissipates?

    I haven't told anyone so far. I feel so shitty I wouldn't be able to talk to anybody face to face about it.

    Any guidance would be appreciated. Please be sensitive.
  2. Madhavok

    Madhavok Active Member

    You just so happened to end up making out? Why did she come to your car? Did you invite her to your car? Why didn't you two just keep talking in the store or outside?

    This outta get goooood
  3. heyabbott

    heyabbott Well-Known Member

    This thread is wothless without
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  4. dixiehack

    dixiehack Well-Known Member

    They went to have themselves a drink or two, but couldn't find an open bar. So they bought a six-pack at the liquor store, and they drank it in the car.
  5. SoSueMe

    SoSueMe Active Member

    Some words to live by:

    I did not have sexual relations with that woman. - Bill Clinton

    I'm not here to talk about my past. - Mark McGwire

    Remember, it's not a lie if YOU believe it. - George Constanza

    It's not cheating if it's another zip code/time zone. - Ah, hell, I can't remember the movie!

    Stick with these, you should be fine.
  6. Madhavok

    Madhavok Active Member

    And went over pages of agate together? Sounds like a hot time!
  7. Ace

    Ace Well-Known Member

    You are a college student. You are not engaged. You have nothing to get over.

    You are feeling guilty. I don't think you should tell your girlfriend. What good would that do?

    But you may want to consider what your real feelings are. And if you two don't see each other much, maybe you were just reacting to that.
  8. Inky_Wretch

    Inky_Wretch Well-Known Member

    As somebody who cheated (seriously cheated, not just making out) on a college girlfriend with a girl back home during a holiday break, here's my advice...
    1. Keep your mouth shut
    2. Remember that most people don't spend the rest of their lives with their college sweetheart
    3. Keep your mouth shut
    4. There's a time and a place to experiment with drugs, alcohol and relationships, it's called "college."
    5. Keep your mouth shut
  9. Kaylee

    Kaylee Member

    Not to belittle your pain, but...

    Just making out?

    You're fine. You're more than fine. As you get older, you'll realize that these sorts of things are pretty innocent. It's only when a penis finds itself in a strange neighborhood after dark that things get really complicated.

    If you don't say anything, and if you're sure SHE doesn't say anything, then all should be quiet on the western front.
  10. Apex

    Apex Member

    I know. I guess the reason I feel so bad about it is because I know she would be pretty hurt by it.
  11. Madhavok

    Madhavok Active Member

    For all you know she's done the same thing and hasn't told you...
  12. Ace

    Ace Well-Known Member

    If so, it was probably with some crazy snowboarder.
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