Getting over an awful breakup

My friends liked her but made it clear they thought her friends were raging bitches. They thought she was a bit quiet, but they had no ill will. The only people in her circle that liked me were her siblings and guy friends.

 

Okay I'm way over 23 but I still remember the good (and not so good times.)

Do not lose sight of the reality of the situation; you're a good enough catch that this woman spent a year of her life with you. You've got a lot going for you, others will find you just as attractive, if not more. Do not every lose faith in yourself.

If you start feeling like a loser, you'll project that and no one will want you (my female roommmate once said "we can see desperation a mile away.")

As the others said, yes you may have cared for her, but would you want to be dealing with that friendship sabotage for 20 years? No way.

Costanza used to you "you've got to have some hand (upper hand)", well in some ways yes, you've always got to remember that you're bringing something to the table as well, she should be grateful to be with you as well and if she's not, its her loss, not yours. Do not beg, ever. Even if she's Brooklyn Decker, don't sell yourself short.

Don't rush it, but get back out there and resume your life.

 

To be perfectly honest, I have never encountered a situation like yours before, and I really don't think you can blame it on the friends -- if your girlfriend is willing to dump you because of them, that's on her.

It has been a while, but I generally put friends of girls I was dating in three categories:

1. Fun to spend time with.
2. Pains in the butt best avoided
3. Possible future dating material

 

Bang one of the friends. You pretty much have to at this point.

 

Right. I don't disagree with this at all. When my friends would say anything slightly negative about her, I defended her. I have a feeling that didn't go both ways.

 

Make better life choices.

 

Getting over a break up such as this sometimes requires professional help.

the massage parlors near military bases are usually the best.

 

No argument with that either.

 

Is that why "It burns! It burns!"?

 

I lost some friends when I met the man I'm spending the rest of my life with. The choice was always mine. I think the right person is out there for you .... you'll know when you find her.

 

Hey, that's my move!

 

You chose poorly.


(Love you, JR)