"destination weddings"

i agree with this but i'd add "i make $xxx/week and have no savings. i'd love to be there but i literally cannot afford it. by the way, mom is on a very fixed income. she, too, would love to go but also doesn't have the money."

there's nothing to be ashamed of but she might need to wake up call to grasp the concept that (1) a destination wedding is a burden on all invited and (2) there are some people - even people she loves - who aren't as spoiled as her and who don't have the disposable income she has.

 

Do not go and do not feel bad about it.

I had a destination wedding. Know who went? Me and my wife.

We had separate parties for friends and family before and after.

No way I would want to burden anyone with that. Hell, I barely wanted to burden myself.

 

The "destination wedding" is a fine idea if that's what the bride and groom choose, but only the VERY immediate ought to be required to go. And if they're sticking anyone with a $500 or more ticket, then they shouldn't be surprised if no one shows up.

I love my small family very much, but if you can forgive me for not showing up to a wedding because I'm on a six-month deployment with the Navy, you can forgive me for not ponying up the dough for a trip to the Caymens just to see you get hitched.

Not unless you can guarantee me some action with a bridesmaid or three.

 

Fixed. ;D

 

Fixed again.

 

That'd be me, Huggy & Double J.

 

I'm going to have nightmares for the rest of my life.

 

If you can't be there, you can't be there. I have missed several of my brothers and sisters weddings because I was at McGill in Montreal and my family is all in Vancouver. One brother who really wanted me to sign at his wedding (and has some cash) paid for my ticket to come to his nuptials (he also got me home for my Dad's funeral). The rest completely understood because that's what family does.

 

Count my vote for not attending as well.

To go into debt to attend a wedding is ludicrous. Don't do it. All the suggestions given here are really good.

And if the happy, shallow couple has a problem with that, then you certainly don't need them in your life.

 

Give the money you could use for the wedding to your mother, so she can attend.

 

Perhaps my wedding gift to the next destination wedding couple could be a book titled "How to spend as much time, money and effort on your marriage as you do on your wedding."

 

I actually think this is a great idea. Def. something I'd strongly consider.