1. Welcome to SportsJournalists.com, a friendly forum for discussing all things sports and journalism.

    Your voice is missing! You will need to register for a free account to get access to the following site features:
    • Reply to discussions and create your own threads.
    • Access to private conversations with other members.
    • Fewer ads.

    We hope to see you as a part of our community soon!

A student I used to know took their life on Easter

Discussion in 'Anything goes' started by 93Devil, Apr 15, 2009.

  1. 93Devil

    93Devil Well-Known Member


    I'm having trouble getting my head around this one. I never taught her, but we crossed paths for various things I did when I was in the classroom.

    This was a girl who you would have thought had every possible opportunity. Never a read flag when you worked with her, and she had every thing ahead of her in life.

    I cannot imagine what her family is going through. I guess I will give Lil 93 a stronger hug tonight when I see her.
  2. Captain_Kirk

    Captain_Kirk Well-Known Member

    Wow. That's just terribly sad, devil. A young woman who apparently was extremely well rounded and had so much ahead of her. RIP.
  3. 93Devil

    93Devil Well-Known Member

    We have had depression threads on this board before, and I guess my response is "don't."

    This is never the answer.
  4. HC

    HC Well-Known Member

    Sadly, depression has nothing to do with logic. Suffering with depression leaves you convinced that everyone would be better off without you no matter the evidence to the contrary. My brother had written good-bye letters to each of his 3 children and had the pills on the table in front of him before he was able to make the call to my Mom to ask for help.
  5. KYSportsWriter

    KYSportsWriter Well-Known Member

    My dad had written letters to me, my sister and step-sister, and had the gun in hand with his finger on the trigger, when Bethany walked in after work.
  6. Pancamo

    Pancamo Active Member

    Sad. Is it normal to put in the obit that she was bi-polar?
  7. PeteyPirate

    PeteyPirate Guest

    That appears to be an obit submitted by the family.
  8. Moderator1

    Moderator1 Moderator Staff Member

    It is a paid obit, submitted by the funeral home on behalf of the family. Not all that unusual, though not common. They want to get the message out, help other families that may be facing a similar situation. I admire them for not hiding things.
  9. 93Devil

    93Devil Well-Known Member

    It saved me from trying to figure out if it was a car crash or an home accident.

    It still leaves a million questions, but it at least answers one or two.
  10. outofplace

    outofplace Well-Known Member

    One of my closest friends from college suffers from clinical depression. She once told me she has had suicidal thoughts, though she has never made an attempt. Apparently, that particular type of mental illness runs in her family.

    A few years back, her mother disappeared. She drove to a motel a couple hours away, where she planned to kill herself. They tracked her by her credit card and found her before she could actually do it. The worst part was, the whole thing left my friend even more depressed than usual. She told me that one night driving home from work, she seriously considered just driving off the road and ending it right there. I was absolutely speechless. What the hell do you say to that? Other than reminding her that she can always call me at any time if she needs help, I'm not sure what can be done.

    She's as happy as I've ever seen her these days. She's getting married in the fall. I just hope she's finally found enough peace in her life that she never thinks smashing her car into a tree is a reasonable answer to her problems.
  11. 93Devil

    93Devil Well-Known Member

    I dated a woman whose mother tried killing herself in a DC park using knives.

    The woman and I were never meant to be, but knowing that type of history is in her family was always in the back of my mind.

    My current father in law tried doing a booze a pills a couple of times when Mrs. 93 and I were about to be married. My life (who shows zero signs of depression) hard lined him big time, and he is now doing fine, I think.
  12. Double J

    Double J Active Member

    She seems like she'd have been a lot of fun to be around. Avid soap box derby racer? That made me smile. Until I remembered that I was reading an obituary.

    What a terrible, terrible thing. I guess the saddest thing is that, despite what her family knew about her and her illnesses, apparently she still didn't feel like she had anyone to whom she could turn.

Draft saved Draft deleted

Share This Page